Marrying with/without being settled

[Shazia_Arif]

Re: Marrying with/without being settled

no,no u hve taken me wrong m jst talkin abt the faith, v believe on authentics bt islam cocerned with miracles. nw it'll b another debate bt jst want 2 say do believe on Allah, he hs already hve written every thing abt every 1 bt the person has 2 b stable b4 merriage coz no parents 'll b happy 2 give their daughters in ensecure hands.

[Sannan]

Re: Marrying with/without being settled

ok ok i'll not open another debate else there was very interesting point to share ;) but its ok i'm silent ......

[Puchi_Kuchi]

Re: Marrying with/without being settled

So True Sadzz! As long as the guy is hard working, educated, motivated and determined then he can achieve anything. The thing is, it may not be in his hands to have everything right now but with Allah swt's blessings and Rahmah including his own hard work it can be achieved inshAllah. Just don't marry a lazy guy who can't be bothered, and lacks ambition.

My friend married a really good looking guy who came from such a rich family, problem was all the money he had was inherited from his father. He had the best car/house and lifestyle but he was one lazy arse and when the money started running out he didn't know what to do. She is the one who slogs all day for him now.

[Gina]

@NaMaan

Honey they ‘think’ they are making good money . But no . Its a discriminated society and we don’t pay women well . If you don’t believe me then go check some recent survey on it , and you’ll be enlightened .

I already answered Gina .** Women = Money lovers . Period . **

Men love it when women doesn’t just preach equality but also act . Why don’t I see a woman standing up and say that ok I’ll get myself a good house and a job and then will get married . If she can’t say it , then they better admit that we men rule . Kiss our hand and start obeying .

Huge generalization. We need a comfortable home and the basics.. now if you want to buy us fancy cars, bigger homes, bigger diamonds. By all means, go right ahead!

A ‘dumb blonde’ may be be after your money.. and she may overlook your looks too. At the end you’ll be pennyless, divorced and looking for a 2nd begum as well..

[Shak]

Re: Marrying with/without being settled

So you don’t need pixie dust?

[AmorAmor]

@Puchi_Kuchi

rizq is written, if you meet someone you can live with forever don't judge him on his income/house/bank balance. As long as he can provide for you and roof over your head then the rest can all come later.

One of the most sensible posts I have read on here in a long while :)

[AmorAmor]

Re: Marrying with/without being settled

This reminds me of a girl I know... She has a degree in something to do with early childhood that her mum boasts about to anyone who listens - she doesn't have a 'proper' job, instead she passes time working in an admin job that is paid hourly. Yet her parents require a guy who has a degree, a secure highly paid job, own house/car preferred and doesn't want to live in with his parents. Needless to say I think she will have a long wait finding the man she is looking for!

We recently met them at a function thrown by another family, and the girl listed the things that she was looking for in a man. A good Muslim was wayyy down the end of her list. What a sad world we live in.