Re: Marrying someone you are not attracted to..
just keep the lights off. :)
Re: Marrying someone you are not attracted to..
Hmmmmmm
I dont think physical attraction means beauty necessarily or being hot. Its more to do with a pull you feel towards someone. Lets face it, not every girl fits the gori, chitti, dubli, lambi, etc profile. Similarly, not every guy fits the tall, dark and handsome profile.
Do you find whatever it is they bring to the table likable? Do you feel attraction towards them based on what you see? If not, I wouldnt do it.
People may boo me here for saying this but you have to be slightly attracted to the person you will be looking at every single day for the rest of your life. I dont believe in this learning to love theory UNLESS you at least LIKE the way they look. The chances of falling in love with someone you are repelled by are VERY slim. Most people in an arranged marriage usually LIKE the way their partners look. They're not crazy for them right off the bat but the initial spark is there. And thats something you can build on.
Re: Marrying someone you are not attracted to..
You should absolutely positively be attracted to someone you're going to marry, whether it's an arranged or love marriage. You can either be physically or emotionally attracted to your spouse, ideally both. One of the primary reasons why many married people are not happy or feel guilty is because they don't have any sort of attraction to their spouses.
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I never used to think it was an issue; that if both partners had attractive personalities then you could somehow get past the physical- until a friend of mine went to Pakistan and was somehow railroaded into marrying a guy who she was completely and utterly unattracted to physically. I think it was partly her fault, she should have spoken up but she was swept away by the moment because everyone was so happy that she got such an educated, shareef, good proposal that they didn't expect. Anyway, she married him hoping it would be ok but it just got from bad to worse. She did try, but she was just totally repulsed by him and in four years of marriage she was only able to be intimate with him a handful of times and she forced herself majorly (she wasn't drop dead gorgeous herself but he liked her, and thats the point. As long as HE was attracted to HER, no one thought to ask her. He wasn't anything horrendous, she just didn't like him). There's a longer story to this with other issues but the lack of attraction is where it all came back to. Eventually she ended up getting divorced and it has meant everyone in that social circle (esp parents) now actually put some emphasis on attraction
On the other hand, I've heard people say the most beautiful partners seem the ugliest people on earth if they have bad character....
Re: Marrying someone you are not attracted to..
so someone u dont find attractive...physically and all the other ways too...would u marry?
No. Why marry a person you don't find attractive? In most cases, the marriage will not work. It will, at some point, break up. I would rather stay single than marrying a person I am not attracted to.
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so someone u dont find attractive...physically and all the other ways too...would u marry?
Never. Why start a marriage that is doomed to fail?
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***Attraction is vital in the setting of an arranged marriage.
It is the initial attraction that allows the couple to overcome the early , bumpy days of adjusting to each others personalities and habits. I would think it is what holds the relationship together before trust or love has time to develop .
It helps the couple to stick it out through the rough patches....
Re: Marrying someone you are not attracted to..
The Genius speaks 
But then not everyone is as beautiful as you Sheyn, hence the lack of attraction with them initially can be a cause of concern for some. 
In most cases attraction is not something that is built on the 1st sight seeing , it rather develops gradually. This girl I used to like was not all that attractive physically when I first saw her but gradually as I started to like her more for her heart/mind, I started to find her very attractive physically as well, enough that I didn’t even like the most gorgeous ones out there once compared to her. 
Re: Marrying someone you are not attracted to..
agree
agree
Re: Marrying someone you are not attracted to..
I wonder how many times we have all heard those people, you know the ones that say "baad main sub kuch theek ho jata hai" or some variation of that. Well, guess what, the only guarantee is that "baad main" these same people will disappear once the **** eventually hits the fan.