attraction shouldn't be the basis to jump to any conclusion. if its an arranged proposal consider the facts y ur family is interested in this person. what are his strengths coz if there is a disagreement b/w ur family n u about this guy what makes their opinion in favour of him. also how many times have u met or talked to the guy. lots of time we meet someone casually or just look the pic n say ok i'm not attracted. love at first sight doesn't happen for all couples for some it is a gradual process.
sometimes attraction is not in looks but in character or thought or achievements or way the other person interacts with others. in these days where good rishtas are hard to find don't just let ur heart make the decision use logic too. if both heart n brain disagrees then this guy is not for u.
Yep. Having difficulty in finding good men for any reasons may make women settle for good qualities other than physical attraction.
P.S. People do fall out of attraction with time or they do not find it very important factor when relationship develops more bonding.
also if we look around how many couples we see are really attractive or look like a filmi couple. most times its even hard to think how come this good looking guy is living with this ordinary looking girl or how come this woman is head over heels for that fat n bald man. so its not only looks. marriage is much more than that. and i believe in this hadith after nikkah Allah puts love between man n wife.
It depends, as is so often the case, on individual circumstances.
If one has an element of choice then attraction is an important consideration, if one is acquiescing to familial choices then attraction may not get a look in.
As to how much importance it should be given, I don't rightly know, for it is dependent on one's expectations.
Worst case scenario, there's always the good old paper bag.
i need to be physically attracted to the man, having a lifetime of not being in love or attracted to the person you marry would be hell, no other word would describe such a marriage. sexless, no caring/loving marriages must be total nightmares :(
see some men can have sex with a person they aren't attracted to right? and have sex with someone they hate
it's like those movies where the the heroine and hero hate each other but then they have this passionate sex.............i can't understand that. if i hate somebody or i'm not attracted to somebody, there can be no intimacy
see some men can have sex with a person they aren't attracted to right? and have sex with someone they hate
it's like those movies where the the heroine and hero hate each other but then they have this passionate sex.............i can't understand that. if i hate somebody or i'm not attracted to somebody, there can be no intimacy
That is one big difference between men and most women. Women require some pre-requisites, or conditions to get attracted, (still could be money, jewlary, romantic surrounding, his voice, his mannerism, alcohol/drugs etc.) men do not always require anything.
All they need is 'cerebro-spermia' to act up!
Ever heard of love-hate relation? Complex yet valid relation.
ok i understand the love hate passionate relationships, but i'm sure even for men, if you are indifferent(could care less) towards her, you can't feel an attraction or be aroused........can you?\
if the man's hurt me so much and i've gotten myself to the point of where i dont' even feel hate--->love---->hate anymore and now it's just i could care less for him, there would be no attraction/intimacy/sexual anything
ok i understand the love hate passionate relationships, but i'm sure even for men, if you are indifferent(could care less) towards her, you can't feel an attraction or be aroused........can you?\
if the man's hurt me so much and i've gotten myself to the point of where i dont' even feel hate--->love---->hate anymore and now it's just i could care less for him, there would be no attraction/intimacy/sexual anything
You are talking about being 'numb'.
Can't claim for men always. If he does not get any by other means, he will throw his hate aside and will get on with it. On the other hand, that maybe a way for him to show hate too.
showing hate through sex? seriously men are built differently, i just dont’ understand that. i personally cannot program my mind into putting hate aside or showing hate through sex. it’s like men’s mind’s are wired differently if they’re able to do that
Global gal u are exactly asking things which i always wondered if they were really true about men. From what i have observed, men are okay with ANY woman for marriage or for sex. it makes least difference to them who is lying with them on bed. which is really really hard for me to understand. may be coz i am a woman and as diwana said we need pre-requisites , some attraction, be it attraction of his money or love or affection or even sympathy. why men doesnt require any such attraction?
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i personally cannot program my mind into putting hate aside or showing hate through sex. it’s like men’s mind’s are wired differently if they’re able to do that