Re: Marrying into an Indian Muslim Family
So I wanted to share my rishta story with you in hopes of getting some advice. I have a proposal from a guy who was born and raised in the US, large business background, family lives in New Delhi, India and he frequently visits as well. He went to HS there also and spent some years of his childhood there as well. I was born and raised in the US as well, although my background is Pakistani. The Indian/Pakistani thing doesn’t bother me or my family. We’ve been talking for about 2 months now, the families are involved as well, and so far he appears to be a really nice guy and someone that I can see spending the rest of my life with. The thing is, everyone from my extended family who knows about the rishta keeps telling me “beware of those Delhi walay” (not to offend anyone here who is from there), I keep ignoring what they’re saying but now my mom is getting a bit wary of the “Delhi walay” thing too. I know it’s not right to stereotype people, but i’m getting a bit worried now because this is the rest of my life we’re talking about.
There are a few things i’ve noticed about this guy and his family also: mom seems to be head of the household, the main decision maker (my aunts saying this is a Delhi thing), guy is very VERY attached to his sister (she’s a year younger than I, unmarried, and seems really..chalak), mom brags a lot about her financial well being (guy has never acted that way), and guy has told me he would prefer if I didn’t work after marriage. Now all these things by themselves are not dealbreakers for me, but..should I be more worried about this stuff?
And should I be worried about this Delhi walay stuff I keep hearing? (I am really sorry again if anyone on here is from Delhi, I really don’t mean to be offensive). Is there a difference between Indian and Pakistani men, if they were raised in the US?
This sort of thing is common in our families.. I don’t think it’s more likely in people from Delhi..
Personal compatibility and practical things which impact your relationship + your day to day life such as where you’ll be living and whether you’ll work after marriage need to be ironed out..