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Re: Marrying into a 'boring' family
that's not wrong to expect at all. maybe the reason the familys lifestyle is so boring is because it's just your fiance living with his parents. why don't you add the spice and fun to their life once you're married? :)
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Ok, so this is what desi girls DONT get.
You will be a wife, and inshallah soon, a mother.
You are the LEADER in your household. You as a woman, especially, get to be numero uno in deciding fun stuff. Your husband wont have time for that, and often the homemaker plans out fun activities for the family.
So, you, your husband, and your kids - you get to decide all the fun activities you want to do, and you can be as active as a family as you want to be.
Husband will play along as long as he gets to play at night. 
So, that’s a cinch. You just tell him, look you go for a picnic with us and the kids and we’ll have fun. They’re so easy to manipulate.
If in-laws come or not, who cares?
Re: Marrying into a 'boring' family
I read this as
'I am an extrovert marrying into a normal family'
Because most families are like this....
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Daffyduck.. InshAllah when u'll go, i guess you should invite everyone, have fun party etc.. I mean the way u have it at ur parents, if ur in-laws allow u. well if they don't i guess u'll have to manage.
Since ur fiance' lives with ur FIL, MIL they might not like going out, movies etc.. Once u'll be thr, he might enjoy ur company and wud go to cinema's, dinners n all.
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Well if all goes well i am sure you guys can strike a balance where you get to enjoy your parties and your inlaws get to have their peace of mind too :).
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You can bring your party culture into this new family and get them into it slowly.
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maybe they’re just kanjoos 
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Haha...one person bringing party culture to a boring family is something not easy to do and waiting for the time when you become mother so you can have fun doesn't sound good enough either.
If you can spend most time with your side of family even after the marriage then that'd be much better for you....otherwise forget about bringing fun in your inlaws' boring life, it's not gonna work.
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Thats called different lifestyle , different nature. Not everyone is a party freak and I realized that after getting married. Uur family is quite active and lively....we like travel, parties, inviting people over, visiting people etc and its a non-starter for my wife (and her family). They are not into birthday parties, visiting people too much or inviting them, travel etc. they normally enjoy time within ..mean just parents and siblings. No extended family entertainment (like uncle, aunt, cousins etc)
Over time, we (me and my wife) were able to find the right balance b/w 2 life styles. I try to help her as much as I can when someone is invited ...get food catered on birthday parties (if we are celebrating one) etc. I love to travel but I dont doo that quite often because she like to stay home and relax...so its matter of give and take, certainly not the reason to let goo ad good RISHTA
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daffyduck, thats how mine are as well. They only have 3 people in their family and thats it. on the other hand, my family is huge. lots of chachas and phopos and cousions, My fiance makes fun of it that we need a excuse to get together. Anyhow in matter of 6 months i have made him into coming to the events atleast. I am sure once i get there; i can slowly start planning events with smaller group and go from there. You just gotta take one step at a times and slowly get him to be like that. However, even too many party picnics I hate because sometimes you can have so much fun just going to a movie with your hubby.
One advice though, Do not expect them to be JUST like your family nor you will be expected to behave as you do in your family. They have developed a way of life and have been living it since Many years, Instead try adjusting to their lifestyle and then everyonce in a while you can add some "fun" by even doing small things.
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Damn, even I wouldn't marry a girl like Daffyduck. Seems to be living a low profile life has never run in the family there. What's with shor sharaba, nachana, gana, bajana? I feel bad for the inlaws to be honest!
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I don't feel like dancing no Sir no dancing today....!!!
Damn, even I wouldn't marry a girl like Daffyduck. Seems to be living a low profile life has never run in the family there. What's with shor sharaba, nachana, gana, bajana? I feel bad for the inlaws to be honest!
Nerdy! No one is telling you to marry a girl like daffyduck.
Damn, even I wouldn't marry a girl like Daffyduck. Seems to be living a low profile life has never run in the family there. What's with shor sharaba, nachana, gana, bajana? I feel bad for the inlaws to be honest!
Nothing wrong in not wanting to be low key or keep a low profile. Nobody is forcing you to marry her or partake in activities like this are they?
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Haha ...Daffyduck, you are in the exact opposite situation as me. I am the one that comes from a more low key "boring" family and my fiance-to-be's family is mA a very fun loving family. They seem a lot like your own family actually from the details you have given me.
I think the key for both of us will be to remember that married life is full of adjusting and compromise. It will help you alot to develop a very strong relationship with your future hubby. The more he knows you, the more he will naturally pick up on the fact of what are your likes and dislikes and respect that ....or atleast have a better understanding of where you are coming from.
Don't have super high expectations that you can change a family. But as someone else has also said, remember that you will be the wife and in control of planning the fun activities in your household. Take into account what your inlaws are like, and you will be fine. If they are not into dancing and such (such as my family) then u should probably avoid that. But I do not think they will have problem with dawaats, planning movie trips, or trips with your hubby, etc. Again - compromising is key.
Lastly, remember that inshAllah one day you will have your own kids. And you will have so much fun planning their birthday parties and making eid special for them. No one is going to stop you as a mother from making these events special for your kids. You will be amazed at how much more receptive in laws become when it is their grandchildren involved. That is what I have noticed.
So stop worrying about these "what if's" and focus more on the fact that you are lucky your inlaws are nice and be excited about starting the next chapter in your life :) Good luck with everything!
I don't see anything "boring" or wrong with what you've described of the soon to be in-laws. Then again, I don't find the lifestyle as you've described (that your family has) very appealing either.
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are your inlaws maybe religious and doesnt like all this mixing up and dancing and all that?
Is there any way i could change the way they live?**
No...'fraid not. They've been this way for many years. They are probably content that way, and if you try to make them do a 180, you may end up causing a lot of tension and bad feelings.
You say you have respect for your inlaws which is good...so respect their way of life. You can inject some fun into the lives of your husband and his family which I'm sure will be refreshing for them. But don't try to change them. Like others have said, it's about compromise. Invite them over for fun events/outings and OCCASIONALLY, insist (in a loving and respectful way) when they are reluctant to join in. And other times, understand when "no means no" and be gracious about their refusal while still leaving the door open for fun on another day. Hopefully, they will be just as respectful as you, and try to compromise on their quiet lifestyle as well.
omg .. what’s up with your snoozefest?!?!?
fat spartan … did she strike a nerve? 
are you the groom-to-be in disguise???
i really dont get it why people have to come and criticize daffy about what she has to say, and how she is feeling … her life, her problems … who cares and who is asking if you like her lifestyle or not!!!