Marrying into a 'boring' family

Lifestyle Relationships
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Re: Marrying into a 'boring' family

I think her point is that her family is very lively, big and close. They get together a lot, talk, interact and are generally very close.

Her husband's family is a little on the quiet side and not as close knit or outgoing.

What PCG is true. You are the one running the home now...you get to decide how much fun you have. :)

You're getting married, not gong to jail woman! Integrate what you're used to into your new life and you will be fine, Inshallah.

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Ditto.. you da man or woman

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I’m not the groom to be in disguise for sure, unless she’s going to be wife#2 and I don’t know about it yet. I’m not criticizing anyone. I’m just saying that a lot of what she described as fun is simply not appealing to me and I’m sure that I’d seem boring to someone like her probably moreso than the family she’s marrying into, inshAllah. I like the family/friend get togethers every now and then. However we certainly don’t need any dancing or hangama at weddings. The best weddings I’ve been to didn’t have any of that.

I most certainly am a man. Great minds think alike.

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Re: Marrying into a 'boring' family

do they have something to dance or to freak out? Watching too much Hindi Drama's @NDTV?
I don't like to be 24 hrs with my cousins. Maybe they don't want to dance and freak out all day like the inlaws and what's so wrong with their lifestyle. They live a life they have chosen and it's not you who shall complain now. Let 'em live.

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Re: Marrying into a ‘boring’ family

“let 'em live” doesnt solve the problem see .. because she is going to be living with them!

but anyways … your in-laws know exactly what they are marrying into …if they had an issue, they wouldnt have done the rishta … maybe they’re just waiting for the perfect girl to come and bring colors in their life :wub: …
lol … too dramatized … no but really .. everybody enjoys fun. so just bring a bit in their life. getting together, having family fun is healthy.

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hey I am surprised to hear that as the daughter in law you will be responsible for planning the fun. I am a newly married and to be honest, I am expected to fit in with my in laws, the only time i was encouraged to take iniative is when it comes to housework!!

Also just want to say to the original poster that I would be highly weary of the notion that you may slowly be able to inject some fun. Chances are that they would expect you to fit in with thier way of life. If you try to encourage more "fun activities" they may percieve you as using these events to take away thier son, esp if they are not always able to come along etc. This could open up a whole van of worms. Thier lifestyle has been built over several years, even if you can change a person but how can you change a whole family.

anyways thats just my two pence.

Timepass February 2015 _ Jashn e BaharaN
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Re: Marrying into a 'boring' family

Also I dont agree with the poster who said that the in laws know exactly what type of girl they are marrying into. Yes they know her background etc but they will expect her to make the neccessary changes.

kung hei fat choi
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u cant change ur inlaws...so u would have to adjust....infact i want to give u one advise that.....after ur marriage dont force ur husband to attend each & every party from ur family side...because its often annoying for husbands who are not used to it