Good thing/bad thing?
It’s cheap, religeously sound and you can give all that money to the local mosque instead of giving it to a banquet hall.
It might not be able to accomodate all the flair and granduer one expects out of desi marriages. If you were faced with it, how would you convince your inlaws (and in many cases your own family members) to have it in a mosque?
Congratulations Chewy :bhangra: 
Dude!!! Please, I wish, but no hula girls inside the mosque!! And certainly no naching punjabans!
Thats what I plan on(or having it in the house) and I dont think it will be that difficult to get the grooms side to agree. Any money the parents want to spend on lavishness they can give it to us instead, to help us start a new life.
but then its just boring :~/
My brother's Nikah was performed in Masjid. :)
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It's cheap, religeously sound and you can give all that money to the local mosque instead of giving it to a banquet hall.
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Yeah, and how about having the baccha also in the Mosque, You can give all the money to the mosque instead of giving it to a Hospital.
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Yeah, and how about having the baccha also in the Mosque, You can give all the money to the mosque instead of giving it to a Hospital.
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um.. see that doesnt make sense.
I was married in a Turqish mosque. The whole ceremony was performed there . The guests also had lunch in the mosque. The cook had made all the food right there. There was no dancing and music, but still, we all had fun, well I didn't, since I had to sit silently all the time, didn't enjoy the actuall wedding much, lol, the temperature was high and the clothes were soo heavy and then the jewelry....
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Yeah, and how about having the baccha also in the Mosque, You can give all the money to the mosque instead of giving it to a Hospital.
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Asif, what is wrong with having your nikkah in the mosque? Your childish comparison of having nikkah in the mosque to having a bacha in a mosque is pathetic.
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Yeah, and how about having the baccha also in the Mosque, You can give all the money to the mosque instead of giving it to a Hospital.
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That could be very conveniently done at home too my friend. I can give all the money to the daai ma instead of the hospital, correct. But the problem is im not paying a penny at the hospital either! Comes with being a canadian.
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Kaleem - Nothing, It's the logic 'Instead of giving money to the Banquet Hall give it to the mosque'.
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Any money the parents want to spend on lavishness they can give it to us instead, to help us start a new life.
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If you go by this line of thinking, then you will pretty much cut down on most "fun" things in wedding festivities, and just save the money for the new couple. Which is fine. Its a personal choice.
Some people, or rather MOST people, on the other hand, will want to have a sensible festive wedding (which retains good memories, down the road) and at the same time, not so excessive to have anyone end up in severe debt or something.
If mosque wedding is your cup of tea ("your" meaning anyone reading this), then, by jolly, go for it. I have seen many of these and those folks really enjoyed a simple nikah followed by chuaray and a dinner back at the home. If you want to celebrate with all the rasms and stuff because you feel you are only getting married once, so might as well have the best memories, thats your choice. Though in most cases, it is the parents of the groom and the bride who want lavish weddings and insist on all the rasms, for multiple reasons.
If Allah has given you money (that you can have a good wedding and still be able to have a financially secure future life with your spose), spend it wisely. It makes little sense to spend money which you don't have (going into debt) just so you can compete in the society for having as lavish a wedding as your relatives or neighbors. That, to me, sounds like a bad decision.
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Kaleem - Nothing, It's the logic 'Instead of giving money to the Banquet Hall give it to the mosque'.
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That was supposed to be just another benefit of having a shadi in a mosque, in addition to the simplicity. Consider it as a donation to the mosque.
One of the many reasons our community is suffering is because we dont properly circulate enough wealth within our own people. You will go grocery shopping at Jewel Osco but not at a desi's grocery store just becase Osco sells tomatoes for a quarter less. And so on.
Okay now, fire back. I'm ready.
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Chegum - First of all not everyone lives in Canada and second Weddings are supposed to be more of a social occasion than a religious one. So I would prefer a Banquet hall over my Local mosque for the Wedding or for any other Social occasion.
About buying Tomatoes - Why should I buy it from Desi Store If I get it cheaper elsewhere? I would rather buy it at Jewel Osco and donate whatever money I saved to the local mosque. It depends how you look at it. You think buying tomatoes from the Desi store or Giving the Banquet Hall Money to the Mosque will solve our Community's problem ? Well I dont think so.
Btw - Have you ever thought about the scenario where the Banquet Hall Owner is a Desi ??
cheegum, is terhaan k sawalat poochnay ka matlab? :p khaireeyat to hae na? :p
How about doing the nikkah at the mosque and then a small reception at a hall afterwards? I personally wouldn't mind doing my nikkah at home with family only in attendance.
Then again, I'm sure I'll change my mind when the time actually comes. Small, simple weddings are nice though.
Paki weddings are boring anyhow 
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My brother's Nikah was performed in Masjid. :)
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So was the Nikah of my sister. It was the choice of her and her hubby, so we all were fine with it.
However I wouldn't want my own wedding to be that boring.
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Chegum - First of all not everyone lives in Canada and second Weddings are supposed to be more of a social occasion than a religious one. So I would prefer a Banquet hall over my Local mosque for the Wedding or for any other Social occasion.
About buying Tomatoes - Why should I buy it from Desi Store If I get it cheaper elsewhere? I would rather buy it at Jewel Osco and donate whatever money I saved to the local mosque. It depends how you look at it. You think buying tomatoes from the Desi store or Giving the Banquet Hall Money to the Mosque will solve our Community's problem ? Well I dont think so.
Btw - Have you ever thought about the scenario where the Banquet Hall Owner is a Desi ??
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Im sorry i should have made myself clearer. We're looking at this as muslims first, pakistanis second. Weddings are religeous first, social second. If you don't believe that then theres no point arguing cuz it will just go on endless.
The tomato was a metaphor. Try to apply that to everything you buy from houses to cars and almost everything you spend money on. Me buying tomatoes from muslims wont change anything. The whole muslim community buying everything from each other - now that will change things.