Marrying an overseas pakistani (guys)

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If you are well settled and earning a decent living in Pakistan, would you consider marrying someone from abroad who is willing
to relocate?

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If you fell in love with them or there is some other history / chemistry maybe - sure.

Apart from that how's it going to happen?

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Maybe I should have given more background details. The girl’s parents are looking for a suitable match for her in Pakistan. Falling in love is a bit farfetched but if there is a strong sense of compatibility would you give it a shot?

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I dont know - because I fail to see how there can be a strong sense of compatibility. I mean its not like Pakistan is short of girls - there would be cultural differences and things will generally be more complicated. In an arranged marriage scenario - where you are weighing the relative attractiveness of various factors. Which of those would she be better in? Guys would obviously prefer someone pretty etc. Guys family might prefer the girls family to be well off etc. All the usual cliches.

So sure if both feel very compatible.

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Notwrong there. There are clichés upon clichés, but I feel most people have abiased approach in an arrange marriage scenario, where they from the offset assumethat there will a lot of cultural differences without even giving the prospecta chance. Thank you for your point of view, appreciate it. But just out of interest how do to perceiveoverseas Pakistani girls to be like?

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No, I wouldn't.

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WhoaBlack Mambo, talk about being straightforward and blunt Lol why is that so?

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Many relocate. Some even prefer living in Pakistan. On the other hand, some find it hard to adjust.
Eventually it comes down to the individual.

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Why does she want to live in pakistan?

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Someone we know in the community was looking for girls for her son in Karachi. She was utterly disappointed and confused during the rishta search as many "rich" girls and their parents refused her son's rishta as they didn't want the girl to move abroad. Most said that life in Pakistan is better for them and girl will be able to lead a better lifestyle.

People have to do their own work abroad. Cook, clean, drive etc. in Pakistan, the rich don't do all these girls. Girls who are brought up with helpers/drivers/cooks and posh living know that bahar jaa kar yeh luxury nahin hogi.

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She’slived in Pakistan for about five years, her parents moved here but couldn’tadjust so they went back abroad. Her father wants her to settle in Pakistan ashe is planning to retire and live here.

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If I were as dark as you are, I would marry the first girl that says 'yes' and be forever grateful to her.

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I've known of several guys that have had an opportunity to move abroad but have not done so because they are so much more comfortable in Pakistan. Some of them did marry from abroad and yes, they did seek a new passport but even after obtaining that they decided to settle back home.

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Lol! My profile name is kala but that doesn’t mean I’m actually dark in real life

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Exactly how long ago did the girl herself live in Pakistan? Did she live there as a child? Or was there there during her late teen/college years where she actually has very clear memories of what day-to-day life is like?

Its great that her father wants her to settle in Pakistan. But does the girl herself want to settle in Pakistan for the rest of her life?

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Shehas spent her teenage years in Pakistan, she does have an insight into how herlife will be like if she was to relocate to Pakistan. What I’ve noticed is thatgirls from abroad are not as ‘teez’ as compared to the girls in Pakistan. As toget by in this country you need to be fast otherwise you will get trampledover, that’s what is holding me back from saying yes, as I don’t think she’llbe able to cope, then again I may be wrong. Yes she doesn’t mind settling inPakistan for the rest of her life.

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1) It's great that she spent teenage years so she has a good idea regarding how her life will be in Pakistan.
2) Just because she is not teez right now, that doesn't mean that she develop those skill after moving to Pakistan.
3) However, listen to your gut. You know her better than anyone here. If your instinct is telling you that she won't be able to adjust and be happy living in Pakistan long-term, then listen to your gut.
4) I assume you have met her in person already. If not, then make sure you meet her in person BEFORE agreeing to marry her.

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Ihave met her in person, but I think I want to meet her again and talk to herabout it, I guess it’s only fair then just following my gut instincts. Thank youfor your view points, really appreciate it.

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Apologies so I didn't know the girl has spent 5 years in Pakistan. That changes things of course.

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Listen to your instincts, it will help