Re: Husband and his laziness
Thank you all for your posts!
He know all his duties that he has to fulfill for his parents...But not his duties for me!
I don' t mind if he wants to send money to PK to his parents.
I only asked him to fullfill all his duties here...and the money that is left over can be sent to his parents....He agrees with that...But he doenst't want to work more than three hours a day coz it's really hard for him....So for him it's much more important to save money for his parents than to pay here.....
Is it weird if I got mad when he said that to me???
So that's why he said to me that he wants to sell my house to live in a room for me...so that everything will be easy for him to pay....So I asked him to work more hours...BUt that's really difficult for him...pfff....He has never worked so hard...YEH RIGHT!!!
The point now is...I've quit my job coz I was really depressed coz of my work...He doens't understand that I need some time to recover.
So I have to work here to pay all the expenses of him and me...and he can send all his money to his parents....His parents also support his sisters (MY sils)...so he is also expecting that my parents will help him....and yeh they did...they gave him two opportunities to work at two of our places...but he didn't wanted..coz it was hard for him....PFF
I've told my parents everything...they understand me...They have given him advise to sent money backhome if he has fulfilled all his expenses here....if he needs more money than he should work more....But he doesn't understand....He denied everything he said to me...I was like WTH....but I'm happy that I came to know his real face!!
I've said to him that I want X amount of money....and I'll find a job and will arrange Y money..So that we pay our expenses...But I can't work fulltime..coz I'm mentally not ready for it.....
and yeh he is still working 3 hours a day...We'll see if I'll get X amount in my hands 30th of Jan.....
He also want kids..as soon as possible....Pfff...funny guy!!
I'm feeling upset but at the same time I feel much stronger...Coz this is the time to take a step..If he is soo lazy...than I don't want to ruin my life!
We're married for abt 1,5 yrs...but started to live together abt 3 months....
And yes I want kids....even if I will leave him....I need a kid who needs me...someone for whom I should wakeup every morning....
If I will break this realionship than I wil work fulltime to fullfill all the expenses....I will do anything to keep myself happy!!
I tried to do a lots of things for him.....Like doing everything in the house.....cooking, cleaning wahsing clothes etc etc....Buying clothes for him....I did this all coz I wanted him to relax and focus on his work...Cooked dishes for him which I never made in my life...kheer/curry....standing in the kitchen for 3/4 hours to make a man happy!! I was stupid!
BTW He lived in a nother country before he came here...
And he doens't has any degree....pfff...
I cried a lot for my bad kismat...but things can change to make it better
So I will do that!
Pls pray for me!
Thank you!