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The parents always had the option of presenting your molvi friend's rishta to her when she turns 19
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Redvelvet maybe you didn't read my other posts, i said engaged because thats how i could describe it now, the thing is his parents told him that there is a girl but when she turns 18 or 19 then they'll marry her to him im sure at that time even if the girl decides to turn away from the marriage she can she has all the right too! I am sorry if i wrote engaged as in literal term. I meant to say was That there is a girl who is 11 years old now and the guy is 20 years old but they'll get married when the girl turns 18 or 19 and that time the guy will be 27 or 28 and i was wondering if the whole age difference was ok and could it work out! Even if she does develop feelings for someone else in her muhallah or school thats perfectly fine but it is also debatable because girls usually at time are only crushing on guys and are not perusing serious relationships. Dont get this wrong but i've seen women shift from their opinions very quickly in only days! Again, if this girl isn't serious obviously she'll tell her parents and they'll tell my molvie friends besides there isn't shortage of women for marriage! My question still stands [Is this age difference going to be a problem?] Simple! And oh he didn't put any ring on her finger or anything there was no party no nothing only a talk that there is a girl for him in pakistan but she's little now but she'll grow up and they'll get married! If other obstacles arise such as the girl taking medicine and threating to take her life for some dude she saw on the rooftop flying kabootars then i think the parents will change their minds.