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January 21, 2010, 9:43pm
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I don’t know. Some of you guys have valid points, but the OP admits this guy KNEW that his wife was into clubbing and going out frequently prior to marrying her.
Why you think someone would change those habits afterwards and “settle down” is beyond me. Did he even have a conversation with her explaining these expectations? She wouldn’t have married him in the first place.
Sorry to say, but why wasn’t he looking for a less-clubbing type personality in the first place? If he wanted some desi attributes, why did he not look for a Pakistani girl to begin with? It’s very distasteful to me when guys run away from their culture and then come back with their tails between their legs when they realize what they’re missing by not having married a Pakistani girl. Are we not good looking enough? Are we not fun enough? I doubt it, but Pakistani men seem to think that Pakistani girls are lame, boring, and ugly. Well, then good luck with the non-desi crowd, and don’t come back complaining. :k:
I just think divorcing for these reasons was really ammature. Fine, she asked for the divorce, so it gives this guy some saving grace, but I want to know if he was nagging too much? Like was he saying “Oh don’t go to the club every night because its unsafe and I want to spend time with you here”…
or was he like all restrictive as in
stop talking to all your gora friends
stop having dinner dates with co-workers
just stay at home from now on and do all the housework
Because if you want all that, then just marry someone who is ok with sitting at home and doing all that. Don’t marry someone whose lifestyle is the direct opposite and then expect her to change. Very immature approach, IMHO.
The question is, how much has he changed from this sort of person. If he marries a Pakistani girl at this point, what changes does he want HER to make?
good points but are all assuming that there was no discussion or agreements beforehand.
and if his requests/expectations/demands were senisble..not outlandish..we also dont know, but what if they were..
we can likewise assume that he did all that he could..there was an understanding, that was later not managed by the wife..
or the most likely scenario that its something in between, now on a continuum of the guy being completely not at fault to the guy being the root of all evil this falls in, we dont know.