**How bad/good is it really, to get married from someone back home? (a cousin or not)
e.g: a girl from uk/us goes to pakistan to get married to someone from there - that ‘someone’ is pretty much a stranger but they decide leave everything to their parents?
All of you people who have done something like this, how much convincing did it take? were you apprehensive? were u concerned about them being ‘fobish’ (sorry to put it that way) and how did things eventually work out before/after the marriage?**
A FOB is someone who is Fresh Of (the) Boat, someone who has immigrated to another country. In this context it is a Pakistani who has immigrated to the UK or US and may have a thick desi accent and other desi characteristics which may stand out in Western culture. Someone being "fobish" is someone who exemplifies such characteristics.
my BIL comes from a small pind in Pakistan. My sister couldn't be happier with him, Mashallah.
He's educated, intelligent, successful in his professional life, and an amazing human being, and thats all that matters.... thats all that SHOULD matter, right? He isn't from our khaandaan either...
PS: I wasn't even aware of the term "fob" before I joined GS.
my BIL comes from a small pind in Pakistan. My sister couldn't be happier with him, Mashallah.
He's educated, intelligent, successful in his professional life, and an amazing human being, and thats all that matters.... thats all that SHOULD matter, right? He isn't from our khaandaan either...
PS: I wasn't even aware of the term "fob" before I joined GS.
thats great to know :) and yea that is all that should matter!
yea...i picked up the term 'fob' of friends...
also before the marriage - how does a girl know shes making the right decision?
also before the marriage - how does a girl know shes making the right decision?
My nana abu knew my BIL and his family... if my nana abu liked him, there was no question of being suspicious of his character... and then we met him a few times and he was so soft-spoken and so loving... The first time I met him, it was thumbs up from me, knowing what my aapi is like, I just knew he was the perfect man for her... And then my sister met him and liked him... the final decision was made by my sister, and backed up by the entire family .... u just know when u meet someone genuine...
Everyone's a stranger until you get married to him.
And that is when you get to know the real him .
I agree with this.
There are so many arranged marriages, couples are pretty much strangers. Some work out, some don't. There are so many love marriages, people know each other somewhat. Some work out, some don't.
There is no way you can tell if a marriage is going to work out or not. And if being fobish and anyway of that is your concern, I know FOB... i mean huge time Fobs that do very very well in this country.
I think its important to find out about the guy's education, family, job etc (also a girl's). Do your part. But rejecting someone based on fobbiness is umm pretty stupid to me.
