Marrying a stranger from pakistan

Lifestyle Relationships
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whos flooding now, eh?

its bbq’s fault, she floods, 80% of the time, its her, blablabla :barbie:

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whats up monk ..

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Re: Marrying a stranger from pakistan

just chilling brother.

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flooders :zobo:

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:lifey: bbq
They were flooding in another thread too aaj :hoonh:

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achawwwww :ASA:

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People puhleeez get out of this ‘fobish complex’. Not everyone from pak is backward & paindoo…don’t know what type of relatives you guys have.

I have seen a lot of good educated people getting settled here without any problems or being so called ‘fobish’
btw what do you call the people who are born/live in the west and are still paindoo-er than people back home??

:k: This even goes for the people you think you know/have relationships before marriage.

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Depends on how badly you need it.

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Re: Marrying a stranger from pakistan

If you ask me its a total gamble, you throw the dice and pray

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Best statement made about marriage. You never know people's attentions, the guy/girl might be alright but their family may be psychos. SOmeone said it before me, we don't just marry a person, we marry an entire khandaan.

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Re: Marrying a stranger from pakistan

i listened to my parents went to pakistan and got married to their choice and i am ever thankful to Allah for giving me such a wonderful life partner.

yes he has an accent but then in pakistan i am the one with an english accent so what's the issue?
yeah he is "fresh of the Boat" sure doesn't mean he is a paindu or not educated. Infact he is better than alot of the guys i have met that are born and raised in the UK.

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correct.

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Re: Marrying a stranger from pakistan

You should mary a guy from Pakistan if you're planning to move to Pak, otherwise there's no point.

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that's great :)

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The problematic word in the question put forth in this thread is "STRANGER."

Marriage is a gamble no matter whom you marry, but it becomes a GREATER GAMBLE when you marry a "STRANGER" regardless of whether that "STRANGER" is someone from the motherland or abroad.

If you get to know the person from Pakistan well and find him/her to be compatible, then that person is not really a "stranger" anymore...and the prospect of marrying him/her will seem "less daunting."

Yes, it's important (definitely makes things smoother) to have the approval of your parents. But if you "leave everything to them" and make no effort to get to know the person and don't voice opinions or issues that you have, then YES, that person will feel more like a STRANGER. May not feel like a stranger to your parents. But to YOU (the one entering the marriage), that person WILL be a stranger, and YOU are the one who will have to put up with it in the end (more so than mom n dad).

While such an arrangement has proved successful for some people (our parents' generation and even young individuals today), it is a greater gamble, and I wouldn't encourage it.

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excellent answer and excellent example.

I would like to raise a point which is not related to topic. It is us who are making the term FOBISH popular among the community. We don't own our culture, our values. If you are going to avoid your friends or someone then you better start from your parents since they are the biggest fob alive in your home.

I have seen desi here who are so much attracted towards black people accent, style and they try to look alike 'em .. Why? I have never seen a black guy making fun of another black just 'caz of his accent. They OWN IT .. and thats why now everyone is trying to copy it .. :) .. ..

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Lmao that's why i always wonder at the duality of humans. On one side a Pendo on the other a nobleman! ahahaha you guys need to get a life!