Re: Marrying a Pakistani man …
In addition to the way he and his family treats you, even after him saying the above to you “countless” times…you actually think he will change? Are you seriously that naive? Do you really want this man to be the father of your children? Do you really want his mother to be your childrens grandmother? Its one thing that you want to be naive when it comes to your own life…at least think about how your future children will be affected.
I’m amazed that your parents are supportive of you getting a divorce at this point…and I’m even more amazed that you haven’t jumped at that opportunity already and got out of this mess.
Verbal abuse is how it always starts. I work in a field where I deal with abused women all the time. Go to your local battered women’s shelter and talk to the abused women themselves. I bet you’ll find TONS in common with this. This is always the beginning. Man emotionally/verbally abuses girlfriend or wife. Wife naively thinks that somehow it’s her fault and if she changes her own behavior or just “talks” to him…he will change. Sooner or later the abuse escalates. Once kids get in the picture, then wife is really trapped.
You’re young. If your parents are telling that that they will support you if you want a divorce right now, PLEASE listen to them. Don’t be one of the countless women who WASTE their youth chasing after a dream that will not happen. Don’t waste your youth waiting/hoping that this man will change. There are plenty of men out there (Pakistani and non-Pakistani) who will show you and your family the love/respect you deserve.