Re: Marrying a Pakistani man …
So lets try to build the other side of the story:
From what OP have said so far:
She is not an easy person, i.e. she don’t mingle with people easily ( this could have sent messages to the sisters and other relevant persons that OP is an arrogant person…now no body like arrogance or an arrogant person???_)
What kind of girl will stay with her in-laws as a guest? she should have not stayed there, Period!!! or if staying was that necessary, then she should have her mom or one of her Khala staying there with her, not on her own…
Her MIL was so right to not let them together alone!!! Rukhsati have not taken place yet, MIL was again right to be with them while outing as again they are Nikahfied only… so there are restrictions there, which MIL have to make sure not broken when she is in control…
It looks like the OP have relatives in Islamabad, then why didn’t they had this Nikkah in Islamabad to start with?
OP got sick and what she did, she decided to go back to Hotel without informing her MIL… now that is insulting for the MIL, she want to go to Hotel room with her husband without informing her MIL where she was staying for past few days???
If she have been bitten by mosquitoes, then there are solutions for that, ask about it? if you are an Early-Bird" then don’t make it AZAAB for others, if you woke-up early, you could have made break-fast for everyone… this could have been nice gesture from you??? but that never strikes OP’s mind???
It is your problem to mingle in the family of your husband and not the other way around, yes they should take care of you but you have to start the relationship and/or develop the bond with them to start with… the OP said that the elder sister was nice to her, the MIL was nice to her before NIkkah… then there must be few missing links here which turned them into monster in the period of 2/3 days???
**8) MIL was so right to not to let your HUSBAND and you go for a Honey-Moon before rukhsati… why to complain, if you wanted to go for honey-moon, get your rukhsati done???
About the room issue again, i bet no one the OP’s house have thought that after Nikkah you would be staying with them.. no one was prepared for it, so that is what you get when you are an un-invited ( traditionally and technically not a ) guest**…
VERY true. Nikah while islamically correct and absolutely legal and all, does not allow people to live together without rukhsati in PAKISTAN. The culture and our society doesnt allow it. This is a HARD fact and those living in Pakistan would know this very well, and possibly Pakistanis abroad too. I didn’t understand myself why her parents could allow this. Society does NOT allow it in Pakistan and the MIL has to consider society even if the girl’s parents are not doing so, because if nothing else she has daughters to marry off and wants to be respectable (I am presuming this). Hannibal is correct in all these points.
You want to LIVE together, even for a while, then do **RUKHSATI. **