Re: Marrying a Pakistani man …
From personal preference, I meant personal preference of the family + girl/ guy. If the girl/ guy thinks its an opression, they should convince their elders by all means. Phadda kerna acha tau nahi hai na. But I guess it is very difficult to make our elders agree on this point. The next generation will be in a better position to try to change this misconception hopefully, since we would had been the well informed and well aware victims of this ‘zulm’-filled tradition 
and we would had known k humare saath zulm hoa hai which should not happen with any nikahfied husband and wife.