Re: Marrying a Pakistani man …
Dowry is something who have lots of haters but everyone seems to have a go for it… specially in Indo-Pak Culture here people tends burn their DIL/Wife if her parents do not pay sufficient dowry… we can hate it as much as we want, but truth is, it is in out blood to practice it and always accept it…even if we say that we are against it…
trust me, in majority of the houses, apart from the qualification and character of the girl, Dowry plays important role to decide the fate of the girl… to me it is like buying a DULHA and i believe that the amount of dowry is directly proportional to level of Bay-GHairaiti certain families or boys…
This is how it started… it was for the daughter and now it is more than that.. they have to do it.. it is not matter of choice any more… Gold has to be there and girl should have fancy dresses ( both are expensive as hell)
well, don’t you think it is joyous occasion for boy’s parent as well… seldom they offer any gift to the in-laws of there son.. i wonder why?
not that i disagree with you, but most of our domestic-stories revolves around this LIABILITY of today and future…
for some reason, the number of parasites are high and they try to CONVERT people, during the peak of the financial crisis, one of our neighbor came to my MOM and ADVISED her to ask my wife to get her brothers help me out by paying for my losses… well when my MOM rejected the idea calling it rubbish, that neighbor got furious and said, no wonder you people are suffering, I have 3 DILs and have asked them to go back to their houses only to return with XYZ…since that day, we are no longer in the good books of most of our neighbors because they think we are making them look like a cheap…
No body wants that, no body ask for that, it is the weakness of the character which have thrown us at this level… it is because we consider the our daughters, sisters as a liability to start with, we do not feed them much, we only want them to be educated because it will be a help marrying them… when MARRYING a daughter /sister is the only goal, then paying for her marriage is what turn out to be a life-time exercise…
Yup that is what i suggested her as first option, she don’t need her and he certainly have other responsibilities to look into… the RISHWAT Suggestion was there only because if the Girl thinks that she cannot live without him and may cry to death if he leaves her… she should know how much that would/could cost her parents..
Moreover, let the father do the talking and not the girl as she after all this is still trying to reconcile with him…