Marrying a Pakistani man ...

Lusi · April 27, 2011, 4:54am

Re: Marrying a Pakistani man …

As for his verbal abuse, he was never like that for the two years that I knew him when he was living in England. Since he has gone to Pakistan he has started swearing and abusing but he told me that he has been mentally stressed out. I don’t know if this is just temporary or forever but for now we have decided that I will not apply for his immigration yet. He needs to take care of his responsibility towards his sisters first because I don’t want him to come here and expect me to send my salary back home to fulfill his family’s never ending needs. He also needs to work on his mental stress issues related to some serious abuse he has put me through. I have plans to study further while he does whatever he needs to in order to get his sisters married off and then we will decide what we want to do. This gives him time to learn to stand up for himself infront of his mother and gives me time to think about what I really want and whether I am able/willing to do what it takes to get it.

I really want to thank everyone for their input. Reading all your comments has helped me analyze my situation from so many different angles. I was so emotionally traumatized when I posted here the first time and nothing was making sense to me, but now I feel that I have a much better understanding of everything that has happened. I have made a decision based on my understanding of the issues and my intuition and I really pray that this time I have chosen the right path.

I think you have a good decision. All the very best.