Re: Marrying a Pakistani man …
- Jahaiz/Dowry is first RISHWAT parents of the girls pay
- Clothes and other items is 2nd RIshwat parents of the girls pay
- Every time they visit their daughter, they had to get them something ( fruit at least) is another Rishwat they pay
- When their daughter is pregnant with the baby ---- they had to take their daughter to their home, take all the care ( pay the medical bills) till the baby is 40 days old… is another form of Rishwat parent of the girls pay
- On the death of FIL/BIL/MIL of their daughter, they had to arrange for all the food and other stuff… that is another Rishwat they pay for being the parents of a girl
- if girls husband is not settled, they the parents/brothers of the girl have to do something to settle him in his life… is another RISHWAT they pay
- They have to put 7 course meal for the 100s of BARATIES on the wedding day, is another RISHWAT they had to pay…
8)The gold sets, are something which they had to pay to their daughter is not counted as part of DOWRY/JAHAIZ… is something they had to pay… not to mention the gold/diamond sets/ring they have to GIFT to the MIL/SIL and FIL/SIL… this is another RISHWAT what they have to pay…
there are many more forms of RISHWAT which girls parent pays during their lifetime… and all of them are customs and if anyone tries deny them, the people like us, don’t let them do it… so RISHWAT is there, one way or other…