Re: Marrying a Pakistani man …
at the risk of being attacked by all the boys joint family system is undesirable in islam…involvement of parents is NOT against islam and jahez is against islam(you’re ryte on those two points) … it is undesirable in islam to keep a husband and wife apart after marriage (nikkah) so even if you argued that there is not harm in following traditions that are not against islam a gap between rukhsati and nikkah are islamically undesirable (according to ahadith) you could argue that undesirable doesnt necessarily mean its against islam its just not looked favorably on but then you’re getting into minor technicalities
but i do agree with u that there is no harm in following traditions that r not against islam but then the question becomes does that include traditions that may be islamically undesirable or are we just concerned with those that are blatantly against islam and its ok to follow those that are just islamically undesirable ? and the other question is where to you draw the linewhen following traditions for which you can find neither support nor opposition in islam. how much value should be placed on tradition versus religion?