Marrying a Pakistani man ...

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Re: Marrying a Pakistani man …

@hanibal

And like Ashy has said, if the traditions are not against the basic values and ordeal of Islam, then no harm in following them if someone have chosen to follow them…

You can choose not to follow it but if someone have, then they have to respect it..

yet you have not answered the real question, if they were all set, then y didn’t they do for Rukhsati right after the NIkkah, why they have to postpone it to some other time, there should be a reason isn;t it?? but i guess we are going to get into religious debate instead of looking into the matter logically…

actually islamically when the a couple are married (i.e. nikkahfied) it is “preferable” not to keep them apart … kindly read ahadith to further your knowledge

@hanibal

No i never knew that, and i guess also the times of Prophet (SAAW) they were not aware of it, that is why, the Nikah with Ayesha (RZA) and Rukhsati were at different times… now don’t tell me that Hazrat Ayesha (RZA) and Prophet (SAW) were meeting out alone and spending nights together after the NIkkah and before the Rukhsati took place… ( there was 2-4 years difference between the Nikkah and Rukhsati)

this only happened because hazrat aisha was really young at the time of her nikkah… please dont take an isolated incident in islam and make it a rule…

@OP im truly sorry at the treatment you receive, however no one can give you the ryte advice,…only you know your circumstances 100%… only you know what your gut instinct is telling you… based on my personal experience i suggest you go the path your intuition is telling you to go with…its not a scientific method by any means obviously but there is a reason we all have intuition and in my experience a womans intuition is never wrong (provided she doesnt have some kind of grudge against someone like obviously if you hate your MIL and think she is a witch [im not saying thats the case with you] then your intuition about her will be marred by your feelings towards her) …take whatever advice you receive with a grain of salt…evaluate it against your situation and take whatever advice you think is sound in light of your circumstances.

good luck to you