Re: Marrying a Pakistani man …
Religion is not being twisted. Its just an addition.
Anyways, its a never ending discussion. But we cannot deny the importance of rukhsati in our culture given by people in Pakistan and majority of the cases I know, the girls are not allowed to stay at in-laws at night in Pakistan after the nikah.
Change will come. But it will take decades and till then no harm in following what our elders ask us to do. When our generation will become parents, we will be in a better position to bring this change. Till then, we should respect what our parents expect us to do. For now, we can discuss our point of view with our elders (which is Islamically right) and we will be lucky if we get our elders support. Consensus decision making is the best.