JazakAllah! thanks man! I really needed that bit of advixe.
Okay, the things is, I iA may be marrying a Pakistani lady. I am an indian muslim, and She will be moving iA to India. Before we go ahead, I just wanted to know if you people had any knowledge of any problems and suggestions.
Mods, please move it to the proper section.
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US...BEING NICE :|
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well i mean the visa situation can be tough for the cross border marriages for ppl to go move to the other country
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Okay, the things is, I iA may be marrying a Pakistani lady. I am an indian muslim, and She will be moving iA to India. Before we go ahead, I just wanted to know if you people had any knowledge of any problems and suggestions.
Mods, please move it to the proper section.
There was a Pakistani lady who married an Indian Muslim and was the mother of 3 kids. She was arrested in India for espinage activities, alleged for being a Pakistani spy. This was a big news in Jang Newspaper last days.
The biggest problem this lady will face would be to abandon her Pakistani nationality. Be ready for all sorts of problems.
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True that...
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Mubaaraksha!!
My friends from Karachi have lots of relatives and intermarriages with people in Mumbai, don't know of any problems.
You can't really have any cultural problems because manmade political boundaries are irrelevant, most important thing is you're Muslims and the culture is the same for most Pakistani and Indians so there'll be no problem especially if you both speak Hindi/Urdu.
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Thank you! That gives me a lot of hope.
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Hello people!
Some more advise would be much appreciated. How are pakistani girls in their thinking? I know everyone is different, but there is also a general culture thing.
Are they very outgoing, or stay at home? etc,etc...
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My congratulations. Anyway, to answer your questions, you will have clarify some points for people to be able to help you.
My best advise will be for you - Don't forget the Pak culture may be vastly different, and she will feel strange in a new environment. You will be her only confidant for the first few months, before she makes friends with other people.
All the best
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If you're marrying this girl, how the heck do you not know whether she's the stay at home type or not?
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Thanks malhot. I will try to answer:
This is a semi-arranged marriage. My parents first asked me if I would like to marry her, but when I ssaid yes, they are now having second thoughts after finding out the difficulties that pakistani people allegedly have in India.
The girl is my cousin, I have never met her. They came to India about 15 years ago. I have never been to Pakistan.
That is where the problem is, we could not just come down to Pakistan on a short notice to check her out. As far as we know, she does a job, so she may not be the stay at home type. Aldl, everything we found out has been very promising.
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If you want a stay at home type, and you know she works, then its only courteous to ask her directly if she's okay with siting at home. Don't force her to change to your life style, and throw away her hard work because you want someone to baby you. Its unfair to her to get into something and then realize after signing a nikkah nama, that she's expected to stay home. Almost every independent girl's nightmare.
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u r gonna marry her and u dont even know what she looks liek? scary :-/
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I have seen her pic. :D
Abbba! Did I ever say that?
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Have you talked to her? 
Wouldnt it be better to talk to her then ask us? :-s
If you are worried about it being unislamic, then you can have a mahram around when you talk.
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Her being my cousin puts a problem, I cannot do anything except wait for them to say yes.
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It would be really nice if you can discuss your issues with her before the nikka, you really dont want this missunderstanding after marriage. Marriage is not a game, its a mater of lives of not only two people also other family members get effected. I'm sure they are many ways you can find out about her opnion, for example through other cousin's , freinds, email, or call her...... pls dont mind, im just trying to let u know i have seen realtiaonships' that are distroyed by difference of cultural in our own pakistani people and it's really painful. I wish u best the best.
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depends on the person mostly, there are also some trends depending on what part of society the family is from due to the expectations and norms of that segment, although they have been changing quite significantly over last couple of decades
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:) Yes, I have also got to know about that through friends...
Thank you! That was really good advise. I will make sure that I somehow contact the person before going ahead and make sure that our wavelengths match. :)