Marrying a non-muslim who is NOT ready to convert..

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Re: Marrying a non-muslim who is NOT ready to convert..

@Niksik

^^ I agree that disowning is totally unnecessary. You don’t fix a problem by creating another one. By doing that, you’ll send a very negative message to the girl.

No there is no way we are going to disown our brother under present conditions. Rather, what we are going to do is to keep on reminding him that he has to NOT STOP his efforts to do the preaching and see if she converts at later some point. Ofcourse for that he’ll have to be a good human being and muslim as well.
And guess what, when I told the same to the people who have the biggest objection on this issue as I mentioned above, they came back saying that not only she’ll not accept Islam but also she’ll take the kids to church.

Not sure how people predict future so confidently but atleast they do enough to demoralize us.

@Monk

What is girl’s take on their kids ?
She wants to raise them Muslim or Christians ?

Now, when the girl met my mom in private prior to the engagement, she said she’ve absolutely no objection on kids being muslims. She even said she’s ready to embrace them as muslims but she’d not let anyone snatch them from her. My mom in return ofcourse assured her that nobody will take her kids away from her.

@partyslims

I think you are referring to the text of the “New Testament” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Testament But it was still written a few hundred years before the appearance of our beloved Prophet and the revelation of the Holy Quran, so if ehle-kitaab included Christians, then it was well known that they believe that Jesus is the “son” of God.

Ok, this is some good information. I was really looking for something like that.

@Mirch

It is mentioned in Quran that Christians believe that Jesus was son of God , still Quran permitted Muslim men to marry People of book/faith. So anyone who is saying that this marriage is not allowed are misquoting Quran which is a big sin in itself.
Quran also says the Christian made changes in the book so it is not a new news for Quran , it still permitted these kind of marriages.
So do not worry about your brother’s eman going bust.
As for your friends and family pressurizing you to disown your son, brother they are again disobeying Quran which forbids cutting relationships with your relatives for petty disagreements.
He is not doing anything against Quran and religion so all those folks are wrong on both counts.
Where do those relatives and friends of yours live . I hope not in the caves of Tora Bora.

Hm. This is really soothing and giving me some breathe. Well, all those who are bringing these have one thing in common. i.e. Their school of thought is coming from Pakistan. For example even if they are referrring to some fatwa or some alim, that is also coming from Pakistan.
Now dont take me wrong cuz ofcourse my origin is also from there, but the impression i’m getting is that the religious stand of Pakistanis is way too strict than anywhere else.