Marrying a non-muslim who is NOT ready to convert..

[Jazz89]

Re: Marrying a non-muslim who is NOT ready to convert..

@Applejuice

Salam GS, this is my first opened thread in life1 and I really need your advice on this. Understanding my problem without making fun is appreciated.

So this is something going on in my own family. We all immigrated to US almost a couple of decade ago and were raised here. Still we have strong connections with our culture and religion and by now we have not compromised on anything maintaining our social and religious and integrity and still enjoy the joint family system.

But this week, my youngest brother announced something which created a stir in the family. He has his friend for last few years that we all know as well, who is christian and Caucasian girl. He has declared that he’s going to marry the girl and the feeling is mutual but the girl is NOT going to convert to islam. So basically he’ll stick to his faith as a muslim while the girl will remain be a christian of which he explains that she and her family is quite conservative in it.

Now my mom, myself and others are really worried. The only good thing is that he’s offered that if anyone has any concern, he can talk about that but that should be very logical.

Now, since I’ve great concerns, I really want to discuss things with him but before that I want to know what are the pros and cons of having one person married with a non-muslim girl who’ll be a part of pure desi family?
What can be short and long-term effect on my brother’s family which’ll grow ofcourse someday and there’ll be kids? What’ll be the effect on kids’ state when their mother’ll be a church-going and father a muslim? And then where’ll we all stand with someone who is the only non-muslim while we still are practicing muslims in this western world?

This is a very serious issue for myself and my family. Your serious responses are appreciated.

My mom is christian and caucasian and dad is muslim and pakistani. In our family that has never been a problem. My dads family accepted my mom, and moms family accepted my dad. My mom isnt religious but she belongs to church and her parents(my grandparents) are religious. My dad is religious and so was his parents.

We havent never had any big problem because of two different cultures or religions. And us children has been raised in Islam because my dad is religious and mom is not. Everyone in my dads family gets along with my mom and mom comes all events, including religious events like eid.
In christmas we spend usually in my moms parents house. And for them christmas is important because its religious meaning, but we just spend christmas as like family gathering.

Even though my mom isnt muslim, she doesnt eat pork. And when we go to eat to my grandparents house, they knows also that we dont eat pork and respects that.
Mom and dad might have sometimes arguments about small stuff like how long we can be out and is shirt too reveling. but those are really small things.
And like of course my dad wants us marry someone who is muslim and he likes arranged marriage tradition. Mom just says that she wants us to be happy, so it doesnt matter if its arrange marriage or not.

But like point is that we haven’t had big problems with two religion or two culture. And my dad calls my moms parents “mom and dad” and they are really close, like my mom is with my dads siblings.
I think if ur bro is happy with that girl, they should be together. And it might be that when she learns about Islam she wants to convert. And I think its not right to convert just because ur bro is muslim, that girl should want to convert because she believes in Allah and Islam.