Marrying a non-muslim who is NOT ready to convert..

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Re: Marrying a non-muslim who is NOT ready to convert..

@ZareenKhan

Each to their own but i don’t understand why people liking making things more difficult for them?! Marriage itself is a hard task on top of it most are hell bent on making it more difficult for theirself.

They don’t ‘like’ it..

@hareem01

It’s not important for saas and bahu to speak and understand the same language, it’s not like they’re going to marry each other. And your side can teach the kids Urdu, it’s not that hard. You should be happy for your brother, it’s not like he’s a teenager or something and he’s definitely not going to be the first person marrying outside his race and religion. Be nice to your bro’s wife and you can win her heart and she might convert to Islam in future.

@stoppit

Nikkah with a believing Christian woman is valid.** But the children must be bought up in Islam and it will be your brother’s responsibility. He will be answerable to this. IMO this is the major thing they need to discuss right now. **She will have to accept this fact and agree that she will allow it and not try to pull the children in the other direction. If your brother doesn’t care/mind what the children are bought up as, or if she says they should be free to choose and your brother accepts that - then that’s his business. You should make him aware of what his religious obligations are and then it’s up to him to decide what he feels more strongly for. The other issues are her family, since they are conservative Christians. I’m sure they will want to be a part of her life and her family and even if she agrees now that the children will be bought up muslim, she may change her mind if her family say it’s not right etc. So that can be the cause of conflict later in life. Everything else comes down to her character and personality (whether or not she will fit into your family), which we cannot comment on. If your brother accepts that he wants them bought up in an Islamic environment, he will need to be prepared to make sure that environment exists and that can be pretty hard unless he has a lot of support from your family. If they will live far away after marriage, it will be quite difficult. So these issues really need to be discussed and ironed out now if they are important to him.

@BlueBells

If he has made up his mind, then there is nothing you can do to stop him. However, make sure you as a family stay close to him and his wife and don’t shun them out of your lives. Allah swt guides whomever He pleases whenever He wishes to do so, maybe interacting with you guys and staying active in the Muslim community will bring her closer to Allah swt. And of course when the children are born, you guys will have to be extra cautious in making sure they know about the ways of Islam.

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