Marrying a non-muslim who is NOT ready to convert..

[nadeemnirvana]

Re: Marrying a non-muslim who is NOT ready to convert..

@Applejuice

Salam GS, this is my first opened thread in life1 and I really need your advice on this. Understanding my problem without making fun is appreciated.

So this is something going on in my own family. We all immigrated to US almost a couple of decade ago and were raised here. Still we have strong connections with our culture and religion and by now we have not compromised on anything maintaining our social and religious and integrity and still enjoy the joint family system.

But this week, my youngest brother announced something which created a stir in the family. He has his friend for last few years that we all know as well, who is christian and Caucasian girl. He has declared that he’s going to marry the girl and the feeling is mutual but the girl is NOT going to convert to islam. So basically he’ll stick to his faith as a muslim while the girl will remain be a christian of which he explains that she and her family is quite conservative in it.

Now my mom, myself and others are really worried. The only good thing is that he’s offered that if anyone has any concern, he can talk about that but that should be very logical.

Now, since I’ve great concerns, I really want to discuss things with him but before that I want to know what are the pros and cons of having one person married with a non-muslim girl who’ll be a part of pure desi family?
What can be short and long-term effect on my brother’s family which’ll grow ofcourse someday and there’ll be kids? What’ll be the effect on kids’ state when their mother’ll be a church-going and father a muslim? And then where’ll we all stand with someone who is the only non-muslim while we still are practicing muslims in this western world?

This is a very serious issue for myself and my family. Your serious responses are appreciated.

Your brother is 100% sure otherwise he would not have informed you and your family. If they are both commited to each other as it seems like they are it will work out fine.

Consider the girls family, they are going through the same doubts as your family, even more in todays climate. It was not an easy step to take for both of them.

Support your brother. I have seen personally it works out fine in todays society. Avoid listening to all those who will tell you its wrong or what is right. It really does not matter as long as the couple are happy together. If your future sister in laws family are willing to accept your brother, your family should accept her. If she is a good person that is all one can ask for. Im sure your family will be happy for them eventually.