Marrying a hyderbadi

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Re: Marrying a hyderbadi

@Spiral

Whaaa?? Hydros are known for their mehmandaari, rakh rakhao, saleeqa. Do you know that? They are known for their extensive menu, bharay dastarkhawn, delicious food. Did you know that? Punjanbis are little.more outgoing, fun loving than hydros but your views on hydros is completely wrong. It may be what your to be husband’s family is like, but generally hydros aren’t like that. Old school hydros don’t marry in Punjabis. Hydro girls are known for their saleeqa. Take a trip to Chicago please.. Lol.
Between I am hyderabadi married to a Punjabi.
They only thing I agree with is hyderabadis are conservative, religious than most Punjabis.. And that’s really generalizing.

@khattichic

^ I agree with Spiral here, Hyderabadis are known for their saleeqa and mehmandaari.

It honestly may just be my inlaws. They’re a little…TOO…chill about stuff. I also think that Punjabis tend to be more…showy…in their mehmandaari. I don’t know how to explain it. If anyone comes over to our house, 5-6 dishes are “normal”. But this isn’t something unique to Punjabis because I’ve been to quite a few punjabi houses where I wasn’t ever even offered chai. lol

And I really do think it also stems from just being more simple, down to earth. Most of the hydros I know are very educated and pretty well off but you wouldn’t be able to tell. Then I have pakistani family/friends that max out credit cards to pay for things they can’t afford just for showing off.

I mean, obviously I’m generalizing and I know lots of hydro girls with lots of saleeka. I was just basing it off of my very intimate interactions I’ve had with my in laws and friends. I think I was just a little more uptight anyways because of my family (which probably has nothing to do with the geographic location I’m in).

Also, hydro weddings are the only ones I’ve even heard of that are still segregated.

Lol, I’ve been to chicago numerous times–it was those friends that live there that told me to stay away from hydro guys.

I’m just messing. =)

@OYMWA

it was a joke.. i mean who marries for biryani?

on a serious note..I think hyderabadi guys are ok… but hyderabadi girls, not so sure… in our community 3 hyderabadi girls that were married to pakistanis filed for divorce and took them to cleaners…I don’t know the guys well enough.. maybe they were douchebags and deserved it… but makes me wary of hyderabadi girls

Really? In my experience it’s been the opposite. Not that the guy takes them to the cleaner, but the guy ends up having a LOTTT of dirty laundry that comes out. Even the reformed ones I’ve met have sketchy pasts that put my “dirty laundry” to shame. I think the drinking/partying/going around with girls (again, may have a lot to do with the fact that most hydros I know are drs/drs’ kids) is fairly rampant; I haven’t heard of very many hydro guys with a completely clean past.

Again..generalizing…

I will say, hyderabadi biryani is AMAZINGGGG. And I love the saath laara / gulubund the girls wear at weddings; not a fan of the khada dupatta.