Re: Marrying a hyderbadi
well to be fair, my MIL grew up in Pak for 15 years (her parents moved to Pk from hydro) and then she moved to America. so they’re not SUPER hydro. Plus everyone was brought up here for the most part so they’re pretty westernized (still conservative). When I met everyone at my engagement, yeah it was different. My parents were a little caught off guard at how informal everything is with them. Punjabis tend to be really OTT sometimes with their mehmaan-nawazi and my in laws weren’t like that at all. Dont’ get me wrong, they’re very sweet and welcoming but the same stiff/formal social rules I grew up with for hosting guests doesn’t seem to exist with they hydros I’ve encountered. A lot of my friends are hydro and my family would ALWAYS say that they would never agree to a rishta in a hydro family because the mehman daari just isn’t there. And then, ta-da , I come home with a hydro boy.
Also, could be completely off (don’t kill me just my opinion) but I’ve noticed that hydros tend to be much more conservative/religious than a lot of the punjabi families I’ve interacted with. But it’s weird because all the hydro guys I know have pretty extensive histories with girls/partying; but it’s done way more on the DL. With the punjabis I know, it’s more out in the open–aka , they’re families are much more liberal and modren in that regard.
hah really? My fiance’s nani told him to marry a punjabi girl because “they know how to take care of a house and can cook well” lol. for what it’s worth, I was always told not to marry into hydros because the guys are kinda wild and they’re “too simple”. Every culture or whatever has its quirks.
Like I said, I have awesome in-laws. Yeah, they’re simple and relaxed, but it’s a nice problem to have when I hear about inlaws making ridic demands about jehaz, wedding expectations, etc.