Re: Marrying a hyderbadi
Um okay…once again…I didn’t make any immeasurable comparisons of very subjective traits such as religiosity/conservativeness/etiquette in my posts. So I hope that I am not one of the “two offensive posters who think everything Punjabi is better.” Nowhere in my posts have I said that Punjabis are superior. I said that Punjabis are also known for hospitality and cuisine. I also said that I’ve encountered rude folks within my own ethnic group. Heck I even said that the few negative experiences that I’ve had with other groups such as Hydros or Urdu Speaking or even my own ethnic group did not hinder me from befriending them nor did it lead me to form very rigid conclusions about a group in its entirety.
Look at this thread. Comparisons have been made on whose language sounds less jarring to the ears. Who is more or less controlling than the other. Who is more or less religious than the other. Who is more or less conservative than the other. Who is more less tameezdar than the other. And in all these comparisons it’s the Punjabis that are being portrayed as sounding less pleasant in their language…less flexible…less religious…less conservative…less gracious in their etiquette/hospitality. Heck…if just one Punjabi aunti failed to act a certain way as a hostess…then that failure was compared to the tehzeeb of ALL of the Urdu-speaking families. Why?
Tell ..me how is that fair? Whether the less-than-positive Punjabi comparisons were started by Soconfused and then carried on by other members…it.doesn’t matter.
When I read about how the Urdu Speaking lot would raise eyebrows at someone not throwing away a utensil for a guest…I calmly counter the poster’s stance with the example of an Urdu-speaking friend who did not even offer me water the few times I went to her home…and that is far worse than not throwing a plate away. And I know of other similar cases. But I don’t see it that person versus a group. I have other Urdu-Speaking friends that showed great hospitality and therefore that one negative experience did not sour my perception of the all members of that group. But seriously…to think that this thread is about Pubjabi superiority is silly when we’re the ones coming out “less” in the comparisons.
From a food lovers perspective:
At a dawat a punjabi man is much likely to go hungry at a Hyderabadi/bihari/indian (insert other indian ethnicities) dawat. The cuisine tends to have more veggies and tastes funny. General Lack of meat dishes and/or the meat dishes lack flavor. As a general rule, you want to eat ahead of time just incase.
Afghan, Pathan and Kashmiri women cooking on the other hand. I will skip two meals before going to one of those. They put out a vegetarian nightmare at every dawat.
Here is my ranking of women and the food over a span of 40 yrs.
Afghan
Pathan
Kashmiri
Punjabi
Arabs particularly Palestinian women can cook.