Marrying a guy "not from here"

[psyah]

Re: Marrying a guy “not from here”

@stoppit

I’m not sure psyah - what is a tycoon? “A wealthy and powerful businessperson or industrialist; a magnate.”
My husband is far from that. He’s not even in business, nor is his father. And to correct you, I said better English that many British Born Pakistani’s given that unless they have a good education, their language skills leave a lot to be desired. Educated families and people within Pakistan understand the importance of English, especially if they ever intend to work outside.

Either we are both exceptional or we are both average, otherwise we would find it difficult to gel as a couple. This is what I’m saying. Regardless of where you look for a spouse - UK/US/Pak, it’s wise to look within a similar family background, educational background etc.

I get the feeling that your exposure to Pakistani’s both here and in Pakistan has been somewhat limited.

Peace stoppit

My point again is fairly clear and straightforward … I did explain in a previous post that when I stated tycoon I didn’t intend to limit it to just tycoons but all people with exceptional traits … I mean why else would a person choose to go and find a rishta in Pakistan as opposed to their own country of residence if it was not about finding someone particularly worthy?

Of course one states that there is a shortage in the country of residence … of good Pakistani men. So people go to Pakistan to look and rightly or wrongly people in the West have leverage. That leverage is their western citizenship which is acquired through marriage. My own parents resemble you and your husband, because they are both average and my mum was here before him … But there was something about my mum and about other girls I have seen in the area I was raised in the UK who have got married to men from Pakistan and that is they have better cultural understanding of being Pakistani they behave likewise, either because they are themselves Pakistani in mindset regardless of living here they are surrounded by Pakistani people, or they may not be Pakistani orientated and quite westernised but still marry in Pakistan because they have found someone exceptional there … My dad chased my mum because although she lived in the UK she was quite ‘seedee saadee’ and that appeals to Pakistan born men more than it appeals to western born Pakistani men, because they tend to look at the strategic relationship whilst men from the west tend to look for “can she cook” or “is she attractive” ..

If both of these is not the case with you stoppit then you are the exception … I feel your case is not typical to the trend.