Re: Marrying a guy “not from here”
Peace stoppit
I think there is a communication breakdown here between us (In that you have misunderstood what I am saying) … I could swear what you are saying does not conflict with what I have said - except the idea of the generalisation and that you don’t like it … you consider yourself an average western desi girl - I gave the caveat to my generalisation which was “unless he is a tycoon” - Since you have said that your hubby speaks English better than most English people then my statement stands correct in a manner of speaking.
Basically I’ll say it another way … The only way a Pakistani man comes to the West to marry an average western desi girl is if he is himself exceptional, otherwise an average man coming over would more often than not be finding that his wife to be is less (skilled) than an average girl . Since you are claiming to be average then I am saying that your hubby must be exceptional compared to other Pakistani men, if he is really good at English then I would consider that exceptional - I used tycoon earlier to denote exceptional traits in finance but really I meant it in any facet of life … I hope now my words are clearer.
That is not always the case, I have seen girls in my medical school married to men from their village back home in pakistan.
They succumb to their parents pressure, and the marriages dont work out, but the guys do come over and are far far less skilled than these girls who are going to be doctors!
Some parents are weird, but it happens!