A doctor is a work in progress..the early years (med school/residency) is tough for sure, but the outcome is worth it. Someone who struggles to achieve an education that has a tangible benefit is not unstable. A person who has no goals/scope/plan is unstable.
My husband and I both struggled in the early years to balance a fulltime job along with school. But once those educations were complete, it was smooth sailing from there.
Because if I'm financially stable, I expect my other half to be as well.
Why? is that some sort of rule?
Women who dont earn / earn less, want a financially stable guy who can take care of them
Women who earn a lot also want a financially stable guy in the name of 'wanting someone equal'
Men who are struggling financially want a woman who are their equal or lesser than them
Men who are doing well for themselves usually arent bothered by how much a woman makes.
Women who dont earn / earn less want a financially stable guy who can take care of them
Women who earn a lot also want a financially stable guy in the name of wanting someone equal.
Men who are struggling financially want a woman who is their equal or lesser than them
Men who are doing well for themselves usually arent bothered by how much a woman makes.
It's not a rule, it's my rule. Why would I want to deal with the headache and annoyance of someone whose struggling when I have all my ducks in a row? I'm not counting those men who are in school (MBA, Med Schoo, etc..).
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thats ok, but why dont men think that way, is what I'm asking.
I don't know. You'd have to ask them... If I were a man I'd think that way.
From what I read on GS way too many marriages are entered into without proper disclosure about many things. It seems that some people don't think beyond the wedding festitvities and then 3 weeks in they're complaining.
Marrying an unstable man is like inviting stress to your life. If someone comes from a family where they've never had to worry about money, why marry someone where you will be constantly thinking about finances?
From experience of having been a financially unstable or unsettled married guy I must say that it can be tough.
What was supposed to be an engagement turned into a wedding due to family pressures and scheduling issues for later times...long freaking story. She was still in school, I had just graduated and while I had a job lined up, I had not started, plus with the pressure of married life responsibility coming my way I took the first offer that came my way and was severely underpaid. The first year was very tough. While the struggles may have brought us closer, it did come at an expense of some peace of mind and limited options for travel and entertainment.
ha ha. this guy tried to sweet talk me by saying “agar tumhe paison ki zindagi chaiye toh apne husband ke saath raho. but agar tumhe zindagi ka dost chaiye, toh mere saath shadi kar lo.”
the funniest thing was the assumption that I married my husband for money. :halo:
So you mean one should marry a gareeb aurat to make her feel yourself as a pornstar.Wesay havenot you heard stories of sexually unsatisfied but financially strong aunties having mouj masti with young & cute guys.
Women want stability and security. If she isn't working due to some reasons, she would definitely want to marry a financially stable man. Just imagine our grandmother or even mother's time. Do u think they married someone who could not provide comfortably for them? I doubt it.
Anyways, this is from personal experience: financial instability create a lot of problems at home. It's best to avoid it by marrying someone who is financially stable . In arrange marriages most of the girls and their family would not consider financially unstable guys at all.