Well, while we are at the topic of multiple marriages, let me add this topic in the cue.
I know at least 3 incidents where a guy married a widowed/divorced woman with kids. In all instances, guy took care of the kid(s) as his own. In all incidents, the kid was a girl.
I am surprised that in haste of proving “all guys are pervert and love to marry 2nd/3rd time” - our ladies seem to ignore many many examples in our society where a guy went above and beyond the call of his duty as husband (and step father). I actually doubt if our ladies are willing to take care of their hubby’s kids from previous marriage with the same love as our desi guys do.
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i know one incident where guy is married to widow and taking care of her kids. and her wife also permit him to go and racho second wedding and he recently got married with another widow with kids.
so yes, guys are good too when it comes to support and taking care of women. :@:
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Just cause one comes across men who's apparently experienced men taking care of widowed women and their children does not entirely mean there aren't women in this very world who're not willing to do the same. But yes, it takes a big heart to do it, regardless of gender.
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although these few examples of desi men being pure hearted is wonderful, is it the majority though. No, not at all.
aren't nondesi men more likely to do something like this and with them it's the majority. my cousin who grew up in the states did marry a girl that was divorced with a little girl but i can bet it was the western influence that made him open minded. as many might bash western culture, there are so many positives when it comes to viewpoints on issues that south asian society is still having to deal with.
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two wives? both widows?
i know one incident where guy is married to widow and taking care of her kids. and her wife also permit him to go and racho second wedding and he recently got married with another widow with kids.
so yes, guys are good too when it comes to support and taking care of women. :@:
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I actually doubt if our ladies are willing to take care of their hubby's kids from previous marriage with the same love as our desi guys do.
And with such a statement, aren't you doing exactly what you were chiding the ladies for? Could this not also be viewed as a hasty assumption on your part? I know of examples where the woman accepted a husband's kids from a previous marriage. My cousin accepted her second husband's son from a previous marriage.
You can't assume that all ladies feel that way..............yes, there ARE other reasons for taking on another wife...................but it's a tough arrangement that comes with many challenges....and it's not for everyone.
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*gulp*multiple as in in more than one wife at a time ok, i thought tlk bhai meant 2nd or 3rd time being married to one woman.........ok i'm not confooozled anymore
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Well, while we are at the topic of multiple marriages, let me add this topic in the cue.
I know at least 3 incidents where a guy married a widowed/divorced woman with kids. In all instances, guy took care of the kid(s) as his own. In all incidents, the kid was a girl.
I am surprised that in haste of proving "all guys are pervert and love to marry 2nd/3rd time" - our ladies seem to ignore many many examples in our society where a guy went above and beyond the call of his duty as husband (and step father). I actually doubt if our ladies are willing to take care of their hubby's kids from previous marriage with the same love as our desi guys do.
Well true that but remember the negativity would always be first when comes down to men. But it is absolutely awesome to marry someone regardless of her issues in life whether she is divorced or widowed..what we need to do is ..give positive in life. And our society and culture would ALWAYS be biased about such women in general but heyy..like i say. What a man gotta do he gotta do. I would like to pay tribute to these fellow men of mine who are doing awesome job taking care of the family.
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I think many desi men deserve more respect than they get...first to be able to balance an extremely tough position of fulfilling their roles as a husband as a son...and second, for not being appreciated enough.
And we also overlook the many women of today who in their yearn to be independent, forget that they don't have to let a man down to earn their position.
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Well, while we are at the topic of multiple marriages, let me add this topic in the cue.
I know at least 3 incidents where a guy married a widowed/divorced woman with kids. In all instances, guy took care of the kid(s) as his own. In all incidents, the kid was a girl.
I am surprised that in haste of proving "all guys are pervert and love to marry 2nd/3rd time" - our ladies seem to ignore many many examples in our society where a guy went above and beyond the call of his duty as husband (and step father). I actually doubt if our ladies are willing to take care of their hubby's kids from previous marriage with the same love as our desi guys do.
I am not sure what you are trying to prove. You make it sound like there is a line up of men (desi and non-desi) waiting to marry women with kids. That isn't the case. It takes a certain kind of man (regardless of ethnicity) to step up to the plate and take on that responsibility. Heck, there are men out there who do not want the responsibility and are not interested in taking care of their own biological kids.
It's a great thing for any man to take on that responsibility of looking after a child that is not his ... and actually continue to stand by it. It really is not all that common though.
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^^ True, but surprisingly we've come accross 3 examples in our own personal circle of friends, and have seen more dedicated husbands than the general opinion out there. Which is quite refreshing.
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And with such a statement, aren't you doing exactly what you were chiding the ladies for? Could this not also be viewed as a hasty assumption on your part?
i was waiting for this reaction :D
thought tlk bhai meant 2nd or 3rd time being married to one woman........
yes that is what I meant. In fact two of those 3 incidents, that was guy's first (and only) marriage
