The thing is...regardless of whether the person looking to get married is divorced or not...there is absolutely no way of knowing how things are going to turn out UNTIL you get married. Sure you can analyze and ask around and do your research into the person, but at the end of the day, only Allah SWT knows what's in another person's heart. And just because a person's never been married doesn't mean he/she doesn't come with baggage. In fact, we all have our baggage. We all come into a relationship - regardless of whether it's the first or second - with past traumas, hurts, upheavals, etc. that have probably messed with our heads in one way or another and give us the quirks that make each of unique.
So regardless of someone's past, keep an open mind. Pray istikhara and then take your chances. That's all any of us can do in the end.
Unmarried people may be going through the rishta process in an arranged setting but what does that mean? Nothing. They could be dating...its all too common now anywhere in the world.
Divorces happen because two people that were paired together...were not a good match for each other. It really is as simple as that. They were not a good match...he wanted something else and she wanted something else. Qissa khatam.
You can dwell on whether he is innocent and he can dwell on whether you are telling the truth about your past...because he has no way of knowing otherwise. OR you can meet the family and guy to see if they are the kind of people you would want to associate with.
I prefer divorced men because they have less of the above issues to deal with...less problems...less insecurities...its so much more straightforward and to the point.
My fiance is a divorcee as well, and I am marrying her because she's hot. J/k, she's pretty damn smart as well.
Parents were okay with the rishta, but some of my relatives are definitely not okay with it.
if he was the right person for me, i would marry him, whether he is a widow, divorcee or never married.
I like your mentality. :)
The prophet encouraged the men to marry widows and divorcees before marrying the single women. It's funny my uncle got married in April last year to a divorced woman. Some family members were not happy but he's a good man....
I might sound idealistic here, but I feel such people could be better life partners because maybe they have learned such lessons from life it takes time and heavy toll to. .
i totally agree with you here. divorce isn't very common in my family but my cousin did marry a divorced girl with a child and she is a very nice lady and it looks like they are happily married but i see him as being a lot more open minded than i did before after he fell in love with her. It makes me feel a bit better that divorcees and widows in south asia aren't seen in that negative way as they used to be seen, they are seen as strong survivors, hopefully.