Marrying a divorced or a widow/ widower

Sara516 · March 28, 2011, 4:10am

Re: Marrying a divorced or a widow/ widower

I have problems marrying a divorced guy may be because of the fear of his behaviour, character and the baggage he is carrying while entering into a new relationship… I see myself getting compared to his ex-wife every now and then… And we usually hear rishte wali aunties that “wo bechara innocent divorcee hai, sara qasoor us ki biwi ka tha”… Now how in the world can we know whose fault was it if we don’t hear the other side of the story… Its not because of bias or anything against divorced/ widowed persons, its just that would’t it be better it they marry within their own kind and try to console the other person who has been through the same ordeal as them. Of course, if you love a divorced person, then by all means go for it. But I am talking about the marriages of never married persons with divorced ones in an arranged setting.

We have a difficult society. Our divorced guys can easily get never married girls (because of problems of rishtas in the society) but it is more difficult to marry off a divorced girl even to a divorced/ widowed person because they prefer never married.

How old are you?