Well she knows him better then I do so if he converts truly from his heart its good for him and its going to benefit him and not anyone else. Your right being knowledgable and being muslim are different.
I was just pointing out the fact that some ppl are just looking at the fact that they were seeing each other for 4 years and saying that he prolly is just bs'ing about converting since dating is not allowed in Islam and if he was so knowledgable he wouldnt have done it. Well their are muslims which are born muslim and claim they know their deen inside and out and know that dating is wrong but still do it. I mean why should their be an exception for those ppl but set such a high bar for others?
I met someone once also who was interested in Islam. He had been to the masjid and met the Imam and so on...and no I wasnt dating him :D
He was christian and he came from a family of ministers and priests. He had muslim friends and had spent years and years looking into Islam. He admitted he became interested in Islam after he met this muslim girl, but she got married to someone else. Anywhooz, he converted id say about 3.5 years ago but I mean it took him a looong time to actually do it. Changing ones religion isn't an easy thing and its not something you can do if you have even the slightest doubt in your heart. Wether this guy that my friend is with is truly ready to accept Islam or if he is doing it to get married is unknown to me but hopefully he is doing this for himself and not for her. If I was her I would be crushed if this was all an act. :(
only problem i see is that he's coverting for the girl, not for the right path of islam, if he had converted before they "fell in love", there wud be no problem.
Maybe thats why they met? hehe I dunno
Like I said none of us know what is truly in his heart. I hope and pray for her sake that he is converting for the right reasons and if it takes him another 4 years to do it then so be it but let him do it for the right reasons.
Yup - I personally beleive, change is ALWAYS from within. External change doesn’t last forever.
@more than love: IMO answer is “Respect” - it lets you compensate for all other things. (Respect demands understanding, obviously)
Its not the cast system alone, its mainly because people will treat you - how they percieve you. In a society which is very (maybe too) social - you need to worry about HONOUR. Everything has its pros and cons. It works for the good as well as annoying (to the least)
Ya know wht i noticed.. theres never really too much uproar when a desi/Muslim guy marries a gori who converts for/after marriage.. it just sounds like double standards to me..
but it’s true everywhere! if your son marry a foreign girl…no poblem she is suppoed to adjust easily to your culture:D…BUT if your daughter is marrying a foreign man…that’s a shame…cause SHE is supposed to abandon her parent’s culture to adopt those of the husband:clown:
This is the way it is in most places that’s why there are far more girls converting to islam to marry muslims…while men converting to islam usually have more personal and faith reasons to do so:clown:
Oh there are tons of fraudiaz out their so if her parents suspect him of being one its understandable, but hopefully he isn't. Their are many out their that claim that they know about Islam but andar se poure poure hoteh hain.
My dh's family went crazy. His mom threatened to have a heart attack and die if he married me... looking back I have no idea how we went forward with all that nonsense. However, if it had been his sister, they probably would have cut her off forever.
You know, the interesting thing is, there have been dozens of divorces and problems in the "arranged, emotional-blackmail-style" marriages, and we're still rolling along, all these years later, and the people who were the most cruel have had the most problems in their own marriages/children's marriages. Karma anyone? :)