They can learn Urdu, learn the cooking, the religion, the ways, etc.
My mom is really social. A few years ago, we got an invitation for dinner to this auntie's house. Last minute, my dad couldn't make so my mom called to cancel and the auntie said don't worry...my bahu will come to pick you up. Obviously, the hosts must have made dinner and gone through some trouble so my mom agreed.
The bahu was a white girl. We were surprised and then shocked...because she spoke perfect Urdu. She didn't speak any English whatsoever to my mom or us. On the way, we heard about how after marriage she worked very hard to learn the language, food and culture so she could understand and be a part of the family.
I believe if you try...these things CAN become trivial. After all, we grow up with dual cultures, language, food and customs in the US...do we not?
Agreed, though I think both the desi and the gora/gori in the relationship need to make an effort. It's wrong to expect just one person to keep sacrificing all the time. A good friend of mine (indian hindu) married a gori (jewish). She took Hindi lessons in the university and can converse very well with his family. For his part, he makes an extra effort to hang out with her friends and family and they celebrate both hindu and jewish festivals.
Your risk receiving evil looks from them busy body aunties. They were secretly hoping you'd marry one of their daughters....or even worse....THEMSELVES! You've narrowly escaped their clutches...into the arms of a gori...and they're going to be bitter about it. In their private moments they will croon Katy Perry's, "The One That Got Away" in a thick fobby accident. Of course it all happened due to the evil eye or black magic. They will warn their sons about you...."Beta, don't follow in the disgraceful footsteps of Shehryar. Have some laaj for our izzat." Not to mention that they will also resent that increased chances of you producing gori, chitti offspring the won't have to rely upon Fair and Lovely or colored contacts.
But yeah....that's all that you risk. No biggie.
Oddly, I've seen browner offspring compared to me in many desi - gora marriages :D
my mom is from the states and my dad is from pakistan- it's funny now because my mom is more pakistani than most of the aunties here! and i'm so lucky to be a part of two completely different cultures and to have grown up in two completely different parts of the world. we might be a little crazy (but really, who isn't?) but we have an amazing family and that transcends any border or skin color.
but you both are different personalities. RV is kind of calm and wise lady.
You are saying as if i want to marry her or something. I mean i meant to say, i like to go for mango and shakes after..o i mean go for mango shakes with her.. and see if she really talks a lot..
