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hindus dun marry in there families:confused: …
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No hindus never marry in family, if someone says this than its balant lie.
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Rural Turks come close to desi levels of cousin marriages. It’s a by-product of social conditions.
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Moreover how could you be Ok with sleeping with some one whom you were told to be a brother/sister of from a very young age? Where did the religious morality disappear now?
There is nothing wrong with cousin marraiges as already emphasized a million times. Talking about religeous morality, every body other then mentioned relatives (father , brother etc) are non-mehram to u , unless you come into Nikah with one ....so stop preaching morality to others and read about basics.
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Fine .... if you think its right to marry ur cousin.. well go ahead... good luck
Note: I would rather not take a lesson on religious morality from a person who cant even spell religious correctly.
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I have a question. I understand its allowed in Islam, but nowhere do I know it being encouraged. I personally prefer people marrying outside of the cousin zone. But on a seperate note....all the talk how marrying cousins causes birth defects and retardation.....and how we should avoid it. Why are there so many birth defects in amreekans, ya other people who do NOT marry in cousins.....what is explanation for that? Can we just break it down to sheer luck? or what?
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Are you suggestig that there are more birth defects among americans compared to places where marrying within family is considered a norm? IF so, please provide a source to back up that claim.
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Note: I would rather not take a lesson on religious morality from a person who cant even spell religious correctly.
i am not giving any lessons here but please learn to differentiate b/w religious and cultural values.
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Are you suggesting that marrying within ones family is not cultural in any way shape or form? (Talking about Pakistan)
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[quote=Hahahaha]
Where did the religious morality disappear now?/quote]
This is the statement that i have issue with . Exactly what are you trying to imply ?
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In 2002, the National Society of Genetic Counsellors found that first cousins have an increased risk of only 1.7% to 2.8% of having a child with a birth defect. No couple has a zero chance of having a child with a birth defect. The risk for any couple of having a child with a serious medical problem is about 2-3%.
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[quote=Hahahaha] Where did the religious morality disappear now?/quote]
This is the statement that i have issue with . Exactly what are you trying to imply ?
Well since religion defines morality and so does culture. Which means morality is a product of religion and culture. Which also means its a variable. Atheists as per most religious people are not considered moral due to their lack of spirituality. If religious people are indeed more moral, shouldnt that fact that your religion allows you to marry ur cousin (who may or may not have been told to be ur bro/sis at one time) be doubt. After all marrying someone whom you thought of as a bro/sis is immoral I suppose needless to say the person engaged in such an act really needs help.
Tell me how does this sound, " Yahoo I am going to marry my brother".
In my family, your cousins are considered to be ur bro/sis so marrying ur cousin is just as bad as marrying ur bro/sis in my view. :)
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Thank you. So there is an increased risk. Also please provide a source when providing such stats.
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[quote=gravity_killz]
Well since religion defines morality and so does culture. Which means morality is a product of religion and culture. Which also means its a variable. Atheists as per most religious people are not considered moral due to their lack of spirituality. If religious people are indeed more moral, shouldnt that fact that your religion allows you to marry ur cousin (who may or may not have been told to be ur bro/sis at one time) be doubt. After all marrying someone whom you thought of as a bro/sis is immoral I suppose needless to say the person engaged in such an act really needs help. Tell me how does this sound, " Yahoo I am going to marry my brother". In my family, your cousins are considered to be ur bro/sis so marrying ur cousin is just as bad as marrying ur bro/sis in my view. :)
your brother is your real brother ONLY... rest every one(cousins, friends etc) is na-mehram for you, no matter what you say! ...i didnt suggest this....its clearly defined in Islam....You have absolutly no right to term this as anything terrible or immoral.
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no problem in marriage between cousins. but the side effects are defintely there. I have seen more then 3 personal freinds married to cousins who had serious issues with children. Lot of misscarriages. In one case they have been married for 8 years now and no children still. Tried everything like test tube etc.
And on the other hand some cases where everthing is absolutely fine in the marriage.
So it all depends on Allah SWT.
The prophet SAW did encourage to go outside of the family and marry with other tribes to spread the Ummah.
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[quote=gravity_killz]
:k:
ALSO…just a side note in regards to that stas you gave about birth defects…The chances of you have a child with birth defects is low if its just one generation marrying w/in family but if you keep doing it with every generation ..it increases.
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I dont know why my name is on top of that quote ur were responding to. That was posted by Gravity kills not me
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Agreed!
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Most of us have adapted the western point of view when it comes to cousins.
Hmmm also i've noticed that cousin marriages are much more prevelant among desi's then any other (muslim) culture. I wonder why!
deesis are not the only ppl that have cousin marriages...
Albert Einstein married his first cousin. And so did Charles Darwin, who had exceptional children.
Franklin D. Roosevelt, the longest serving US president in history married his cousin
The first Prime Minister of Canada, Sir John A. MacDonald married his first cousin.