my grandparents were cousins, mom and dad r cousins. i think it’s perfectly alrite but many ppl find it gross and classify it as inbreeding. parents say if it was harmful it wud never be recommended in Islam. i don’t have a vast knowledge of Islam unfortunately and wud like to know what the Quran Pak says abt marrige within the family and ur own personal opinions of course.
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Marraige between cousins is allowed in Islam, nothing wrong in it.
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yupp its aloud...Islam dsnt forbid it...but i know in theUS its actually "illegal "in sum states to get married to ur cousin
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lolz....im cool with it IF u want to marry that person thn if theere a czn its fine
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If you're personall okay wiht it then why not. If it was really that bad would it really be allowed in Islam? Also I don't think its right when families limit spouses to cousins only, they won't allow any "outsiders"..
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Quran 4:22-25
And marry not women whom your fathers married,- except what is past: It was shameful and odious,- an abominable custom indeed.
Prohibited to you (For marriage) are:- Your mothers, daughters, sisters; father's sisters, Mother's sisters; brother's daughters, sister's daughters; foster-mothers (Who gave you suck), foster-sisters; your wives' mothers; your step-daughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom ye have gone in,- no prohibition if ye have not gone in;- (Those who have been) wives of your sons proceeding from your loins; and two sisters in wedlock at one and the same time, except for what is past; for Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful;-
Also (prohibited are) women already married, except those whom your right hands possess: Thus hath Allah ordained (Prohibitions) against you: Except for these, all others are lawful, provided ye seek (them in marriage) with gifts from your property,- desiring chastity, not lust, seeing that ye derive benefit from them, give them their dowers (at least) as prescribed; but if, after a dower is prescribed, agree Mutually (to vary it), there is no blame on you, and Allah is All-knowing, All-wise.
Quran 33:50
O Prophet! We have made lawful to thee thy wives to whom thou hast paid their dowers; and those whom thy right hand possesses out of the prisoners of war whom Allah has assigned to thee; and daughters of thy paternal uncles and aunts, and daughters of thy maternal uncles and aunts, who migrated (from Makka) with thee; and any believing woman who dedicates her soul to the Prophet if the Prophet wishes to wed her;- this only for thee, and not for the Believers (at large); We know what We have appointed for them as to their wives and the captives whom their right hands possess;- in order that there should be no difficulty for thee. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
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Religiously, there is nothing wrong with it, but Islam does ENCOURAGE marrying outside the family!! And for good reasons too.
You see, if you just look at a cousin-cousin marriage by itself, you might not think there is anything biologically dangerous about it. However, if you take into account that your grandparents were cousins and your parents are cousins, then you will come to the conclusion that a great porportion of your genes are homozygous. If you were to marry a cousin of yours, he would share a HUGE number of your genes, more so than if you were to marry out of the family. Therefore, maybe your parent came out normal, and maybe you came out normal, but your kids might have developmental problems. What is more common is that your kids would have a weaker ability to handle infections (and that has to do with your MHC molecules - if you need a more detailed explanation, just PM me).
So, when you look at cousin-cousin marriages, you need to take a lot of factors into account - in your case, the fact that you have a family history of such marriages.
Swim in fresh waters. Find a non-relative. Spice things up a bit.
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There isn't anything in Quran or Sunnah which prohibits it. But at the same time there isnt' anything that encourages it. As long as you follow the basics .. rest is all ok.
:)
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after reading MSL's post i was thinking the same thing.....MSL said Islam recommends the marrying of cousins....
Islam does not recommend it in fact Islam encourages marrying outside of the family as PCG just mentioned above. So that you can "broaden your horizons" if you will.
i recall reading this once....
The Prophet (SAW) once told one of his Companions to choose a wife from a tribe different to his, and then to choose for his son a wife from a third tribe, and to seek for his second son a girl from yet another tribe.
Recommending and allowing marriages b/w cousins are 2 different things MSL.
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:)
There was an incident when Sahabis came to Rasul Allah PBUH stating that there children were having birth defects or something similar, and Allah's Messenger advised them to marry outside the immediate first and second cousin relations.
If some one needs the Hadith, I can find out.
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Its allowed in Islam, so stop knocking it people, its personal or family preference, the people don't have objections, than whats wrong with it?
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It is allowed in Islam but there is a difference between ALLOWED, RECOMMENDED AND PREFERRED.
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There is a history of birth defects due to in breeding all over European Royal Families where this practice was very prevalent so they could control all the wealth. and now it is happening in the Pakistani community in UK, the first generation enjoys the close knit family structure but the offspring pay a heavey price in birth defects. by then it is too late to reverse for those who are born with retarded genes.
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i think it is harmfull but a low percentage, there are threats like retarded children but i am yet to see a married couple with a spastic child due to cpsin marrage.
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Sindsagar, if you continously do it, if not, everythings fine and dandy..
What is the difference between recommended and preferred..
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**May be in your case recommended would be a Pathan girl and preferred would be from Afridi clan. ( just as an example ). **
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Hey Afridi: What is this 40% warning thing coming to me? Did u have anything to do with it???
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Most people regard their cousins as their own brothers and sisters, so although permissible in Islam, I am not really comfortable with the idea of marrying one's own cousin.
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…i have pretty much same warning level.
f.y.i. I’m neither an afridi or a pathan.
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Sorry yaar I just gave an example. How come I cant see your warning level?? What the hell does it mean?? Who is deciding thses levels??