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You can only see your own warning level, and once you get to 100%, your BANNED!
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i already said that :p
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unless i overlooked a post...i dont think anyone here said that there is anything wrong with marrying your first cousin. You cant make haram out of something that Allah has made halal right? so there shouldnt be any objections. However the Prophet (SAW) himself said it is best to marry women outside of your family. (as stated in my above post)
I think people nowadays (in our generation) may find it to be "gross" because most ppl think of their cousins as a sibling and not as a non-mehrem.
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No i don't think theres anything wrong with cousin marriage exactly but there's no rule that says that you HAVE to stick with it and that its the best choice; i know lots of families they will never marry outside the family even if the children don't like the idea, and dont' want to marry a cousin but their families wil never even look at an "outsider"
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thanks guys :k: i kno there is a difference b/w allowed, recommended, and preferred. u don’t have to give me definitions.i was just letting u all kno wat my parents have told me. thanks for the clarification 
there r many reasons my parents want me to marry my khala’s son. i was just wondering abt the Islamic point of view:) thanks again
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^ If you think he's good for you, then go for it. But if you have reasons for NOT wanting to other than the cousin rishta than make yourself be heard.
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thanks for the advice :) Allah ka shukar hai that my parents r very open-minded and keep my opinions in high regard. they wud never do anything that i wud dislike or be uncomfortable with
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That's awesome, you're lucky not many parents are the same way :)
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nothing wrong with marrying ur cousin... infact, my great grandparents , grandparents and now my parents are all cousins.. and ya.. i have female-cousin that i really like...... shes Preeeeeeetttttty.... with capital "P"!!!... :P Lovely!!
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You might want to tell them of the highly valid biological reasons for NOT marrying your khala's son. I doubt khala wants a retarded grandchild.
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Just because something is allowed in Islam doesn’t mean that it can’t cause harm. There are several hadiths that show that ghee (clarified butter) is allowed and even that the Prophet (pbuh) liked it.
http://www.usc.edu/dept/MSA/fundamentals/hadithsunnah/abudawud/027.sat.html
Book 27, Number 3809:
Narrated Abdullah ibn Umar:
The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: I wish I had a white loaf made from tawny and softened with clarified butter and milk. A man from among the people got up and getting one brought it. He asked: In which had it been? He replied: In a lizard skin. He said: Take it away.
However, we now know that ghee consists entirely of saturated fat and as such can be a major contributor to coronary heart disease.
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thanks for the analogy?
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You are welcome the anology.
Like ghee, marriage between cousins only leads to harm if you do a lot of it over time. Complications in cousin marriages offspring only happen if there is a history of cousin marriages in your family.
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pyaric, seriously wth is wrong with you?
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Like ghee, marriage between cousins only leads to harm if you do a lot of it over time. Complications in cousin marriages offspring only happen if there is a history of cousin marriages in your family.
wonderful analogy Maddy!!
if the cousin marriage was one or perhaps even 2 generations it would be ok...but 3,4,5 generations of marrying w/in the family is going to cause problems. I'd really think about it if i was you.
Also MSL...
no one was giving you a definition of recommended, allowed and preferred (unless i overlooked that). You said in your original post that it was "recommened in Islam" and it isnt. It is just allowed but not recommended.
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Its a very unhealthy process that could cause some fatal results ... (unhealthy Kids)
Moreover how could you be Ok with sleeping with some one whom you were told to be a brother/sister of from a very young age? Where did the religious morality disappear now?
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Quran is a religious book, and the people who wrote it were not experts in medicine and genetic science. So please talk to an expert and he/she will tell you that it is very unhealthy for the children, and in your case it does become atleast 3rd generation of inbreeding.
My take is that please talk to an expert.
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**Moreover how could you be Ok with sleeping with some one whom you were told to be a brother/sister of from a very young age? **Where did the religious morality disappear now?
Well not everyone is told or think of their cousins as such. In fact from a religious point of view.....cousins are non-mehrem and shouldnt be viewed as a sibling in the first place.
Most of us have adapted the western point of view when it comes to cousins.
Hmmm also i've noticed that cousin marriages are much more prevelant among desi's then any other (muslim) culture. I wonder why!
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Most of us have adapted the western point of view when it comes to cousins.
Hmmm also i've noticed that cousin marriages are much more prevelant among desi's then any other (muslim) culture. I wonder why!
Inherited Indian culture (Hindu Culture)
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really? hindu's marry cousins 2? i didnt know that.