Married Working Females

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Re: Married Working Females

@gudiaali

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I’m not married, but my cousin who got married a while back has an interesting dilemma. His wife makes 2.5x more than him… but he’s really religious so he tries and pays for everything that that is under his life style. So even though the dr. is rich you’d think they would live in a fancy house or something. He doesn’t take anything from his wife. Like she’s a Dr. while he’s a regular DB Admin. I don’t know how much they actually make but he’s really prideful guy. Even the house he insisted that he’s paying for himself, but he borrowed some of the wifes money and paying her back interest free so they don’t have to go through a bank. He also pays for lunches and everything. So his wife just spends that money on vacays (I think she covers him, not sure?) and really nice car for her self, she also probably sends the money back home to her parents as well I think. It’s nice to see a money situation that’s done Islamically, you don’t see that alot. They are really hush hush about it too…He only told me cause I asked and pressed him about it.

This is nice. But i also noticed one point in your post that says husband pays according to his lifestyle or whatever he can afford. This also shows that his wife even though making more than him, has agreed to a lesser lifestyle. There are also situations where husband is willing to pay whatever he can afford but wife wants a bigger house, upscale lifestyle etc. and that is beyond the husband means so he asks wife to pay.

Oh yes, that’s very true, I wonder if they ever fight about that? I’m sure it’s probably come up once or twice. Well they’ve been married for a while, and she was initially paying back her loans in the first couple of years of marriage I assume, cause they were living with his parents. So she’s probably used to the lower scale lifestyle. But honestly, apart from the house, everything she has is expensive. Her purses, her bags, her shoes, her clothes, are all designer. But i’m sure give if you give it a couple years and if they have more kids, she’ll get her wish. And my cousin will probably have to not be so stubborn on that fact.