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If a husband earns average and wants to spend 50% of his salary on the household expense and wants to save 50%, but only 50% of his income can’t meet all house expenses so he wants the wife to contribute for the rest. Does this sound okay because if he chose not to save 50% of his income then he can easily take care of all the expenses by his income alone.
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this sounds familiar 
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I’m not married, but my cousin who got married a while back has an interesting dilemma. His wife makes 2.5x more than him… but he’s really religious so he tries and pays for everything that that is under his life style. So even though the dr. is rich you’d think they would live in a fancy house or something. He doesn’t take anything from his wife. Like she’s a Dr. while he’s a regular DB Admin. I don’t know how much they actually make but he’s really prideful guy. Even the house he insisted that he’s paying for himself, but he borrowed some of the wifes money and paying her back interest free so they don’t have to go through a bank. He also pays for lunches and everything. So his wife just spends that money on vacays (I think she covers him, not sure?) and really nice car for her self, she also probably sends the money back home to her parents as well I think. It’s nice to see a money situation that’s done Islamically, you don’t see that alot. They are really hush hush about it too…He only told me cause I asked and pressed him about it. 
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I’m not married, but my cousin who got married a while back has an interesting dilemma. His wife makes 2.5x more than him… but he’s really religious so he tries and pays for everything that that is under his life style. So even though the dr. is rich you’d think they would live in a fancy house or something. He doesn’t take anything from his wife. Like she’s a Dr. while he’s a regular DB Admin. I don’t know how much they actually make but he’s really prideful guy. Even the house he insisted that he’s paying for himself, but he borrowed some of the wifes money and paying her back interest free so they don’t have to go through a bank. He also pays for lunches and everything. So his wife just spends that money on vacays (I think she covers him, not sure?) and really nice car for her self, she also probably sends the money back home to her parents as well I think. It’s nice to see a money situation that’s done Islamically, you don’t see that alot. They are really hush hush about it too…He only told me cause I asked and pressed him about it. /QUOTE
This is nice. But i also noticed one point in your post that says husband pays according to his lifestyle or whatever he can afford. This also shows that his wife even though making more than him, has agreed to a lesser lifestyle. There are also situations where husband is willing to pay whatever he can afford but wife wants a bigger house, upscale lifestyle etc. and that is beyond the husband means so he asks wife to pay.
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Oh yes, that’s very true, I wonder if they ever fight about that? I’m sure it’s probably come up once or twice. Well they’ve been married for a while, and she was initially paying back her loans in the first couple of years of marriage I assume, cause they were living with his parents. So she’s probably used to the lower scale lifestyle. But honestly, apart from the house, everything she has is expensive. Her purses, her bags, her shoes, her clothes, are all designer. But i’m sure give if you give it a couple years and if they have more kids, she’ll get her wish. And my cousin will probably have to not be so stubborn on that fact.
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Husband and I are on similar salaries, generally he pays for all household costs, car, and meals out, movies etc.. He doesn’t expect me to contribute to anything however occasionally I’ll pay for dinner or something. This does mean that he doesn’t manage to save as much as me. I have offered for us to do things 50/50 but he sees it as his responsibility to provide.
I try to save as much of my income for bigger things.
I am more into holidays etc than he is so if I plan a break I tend to pay for us both, he however tends to pay for everything to do whilst we are on holiday, so it balances out.
We have separate accounts but are very open about our finances with one another and seem to have a mutual understanding, alhamdulillah.
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This really depends on the income difference and what’s happening to the savings. If there is income disparity then it’s not fair to the wife to have no savings left for her own usage. I’ve seen wives who have husbands who go out golfing and on solo vacations while wives can’t afford anything else because they split 50/50. The better way is to split via percentages of salary so couple can split 40/60 to accommodate for salary differences. Also if the savings are not going into a joint savings account then nope. Would not be interested in the savings going for a fancy new car or something. Also at 50/50 if everything needs to be equal then that includes house hold chores and child care.
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Well if the savings are going to a joint savings account, then I don’t see the problem. It’s stupid for a couple not have money saved for FAMILY emergencies (health issues, 1 person loses job etc.). I don’t see what difference it makes where the money comes from because I see all money as belonging to the couple as a unit. As long as the couple understands that the savings are meant for BOTH of them for emergencies/retirement etc., then I don’t see any issues this the scenario mentioned above.