Married to a non Pakistani person.

Are any of you married to a person of non Pakistani origin? How do you find it? Would you consider it? Why and why not?

Pros

It’s nice to learn about a new culture, language etc..new foods.

Nice not to have that Pakistani susral drama, and gossip etc..

Unique amongst family.

Cons

I miss the food, my favorite food is Nihari and I also love Aloo parhata, needless to say wife can’t make any of that. Their food is kind of plain and bland.

You have to talk to your wife in English, which is fine since my urdu is not so great.

However, it’d be nice to communicate with them in another language, and you feel odd when they talk to their own people in their language while you don’t know what they say.

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Maybe you should learn how to make nihari and aloo paratha and surprise your wife! :) you know... cook her a romantic meal and give her a day off from the kitchen.

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I can't cook anything like that. All I can make is pasta, macaroni, noodles, egg...you know poor college dorm room food. I took foods as a freshman and got a D. Plus my wife prefers I stay out of the kitchen cause according to her I make too much of a mess there.

It's not that I don't like Arabic food, its just their food is too bland. Our food is the best, no one can ever beat Pakistani food, and yes I mean Pakistani. Indian food is different, they put too many stinky spices in their stuff. I prefer Pakistani and esp Peshawar style food as I my parents are orig from Mardan.

Oh well, maybe I should get a nice Pashtun wife too, he he.

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Anyway back to the topic, I think parents also don't like it if you marry someone of non Pakistani origin.

I only have one brother and his wife is from Iran, they live in another state.

So my parents never got to have that typical "Bahoo" that they see in PTV dramas.

Though they never say it, I can tell. They will see their friends with their daughter in laws, and they kinda get sad.

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^l aww thats cute! I understand your parents..your mom probably wants your wife to give her the latest juice on the drama going on in the community ;) lol jkk

I think there are pros and cons to everything. My chacha is happily married to his wife who is Ecuadorian (for 23 years mashallah) but he still says how he misses the feeling of a Pakistani wife.

I personally can't imagine being with a non-Paki or a non-desi because i'm very Paki at heart! I want my husband to speak to me in urdu, understand fob jokes, have late night cravings for falooda and samosas with me lol.

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go ahead, what are you waiting for, slick hair not so slick anymore?

Anyway, as far as the topic is concerned, my sister is married to a brit, he is great mashaAllah, loves our local food, colourful events etc. he's even learnt a little urdu himself. My sister on the other hand loves her inlaws, theyre polite, genuine and non-interfering (mashaAllah se) so she isnt plagued with paki gossip/drama

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Plain food is good for your health so be grateful.

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whats wrong with Arabic food Edal .I ate it for 3 years ...and now i miss it ..dude .. your luucky .. your food can get cooked in minuets rather than what pakistani khanay take ages ..

plus what hareem said ... too much spices and oily foods are bad for health ..more chance of heart attacks ..I personally love food with less mirch, less salt.. and totally no masaalay ..simple is the way ..and thats how my mrs likes it too .. even though she is pakistani.

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Pakistani food doesn't have to be bad, you can use extra virgin olive or vegetable oil. I don't like too many spices either, a little taste is good though.

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Arabic food is too bland? Let me just tell you, I have been eating Arabic food for 21 years now, and never did I even once thought it was bland. Arabic food is SO DAMN TASTY. From their Hummus, Fatoush, Kibbeh, to Kebabs, Shawerma, Cheese Manakesh and so on. Everything has taste.

I get it you living in Houston might not have proper Arabic food places or your wife cooks a bit bland but tell her to put some taste in it. Either that or you either get your ass down to Dubai. Jeez. lmao... made me morning, reading this comment.

Oh and boy, I bet you haven't tried EVERYTHING that Arabic Cuisine has to offer so don't generalise and say everything is bland and stuff.

Egyptian food is the worst from the lot, best is Lebanese. So go for Lebanese dishes prepared by their chefs. Try Mexican Shawerma and tell me how that is. That's not bland at all. Oh and food includes SWEET DISHES and Arabs have one the most amazing range of sweet dishes ever. Again not bland.

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Yeah but do you think its better than Pakistani food? I don't think she can cook all that amazing stuff you described lol.

Also in Dubai since there are a lot of Pakistanis do you think they 'spice' up the taste a little bit? You know kind of make a hybrid with Pakistani food? That would be good.

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Lebanese and Turkish cuisine is the best among all. Lebanese has blend of both Med. and Arabic dishes. Can't forget varieties of kebabs I had in Istanbul.

Food cooked at home can NEVER taste like that in a restaurant.

When you visit Pakistan and travel by road, just stop by a River and buy freshly grilled fish. In NWFP near Swat area they cook it, pick from its tail and then give it a jerk. The skeleton leaves white meat and it's very fresh and tasty.

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They don't give a damn whether Pakistanis are living here or not and they certainly won't change their food taste for us. It's not like what Pakistanis do to Chinese food. Arabic food is amazing the way it is. No need to spice it up a bit, otherwise it won't be Arabic any more.

There is a difference between comparing something and saying something is BLAND. I was just saying Arabic food is not bland. Having said that, I can't like without my Murgh Choley, Chargey, Tikka Kebab, Kachori, Biryani and stuff. I am a Lahori after all.

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Mustana Turkish cuisine is amazing. There is a restaurant here at MOE, called PASHA which serves just that. Their presentation rocks and it's full of taste. I love Turkish Shawerma.

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Where exactly is this PASHA restaurant??

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Food? In life1?

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You'll be lucky if you don't get susraal drama ... it is a common factor in all cultures ... susral drama cannot be avoided.

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Come to Dubai and go to Mall of the Emirates. Amazing restaurant and food.

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thanks. will visit PASHA on my next visit.

In fast food, I can't live without Burger King. Can you imagine I used to stay in Bangkok for 2 weeks in transit just for BK's Extra Long Chicken Sandwiches. 3~4 meals every day. Later I found it was 3000+ calories and stopped it. Their grill n salty taste is amazing.

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weird, i am pathan as well, and my brother is married to an Arab girl as well. but he was never that into paki culture, so to him, marrying an Arab girl wasnt a big deal. But for myself personally, I am too pakified to marry anyone but a pakistani.