we both work... he pays for everything, bill shills, bubz necessities, outings, gifts, PETROL (hai Allah.. so expensive) and all my money goes into savings (for the mortgage)
I used to spend everything i earned (before being married) and so for the first few months i did find it odd asking for money... but we both talked about it... and we made a plan on how to spend/save money... its been working out great Alhamdulillah.
i dont spend half as much as I used to.. but thats not cus i dont want to ask hubby for money (not that I need to anyways.. its just polite to let one another know what ur going to be spending the big bucks on).. but yeah, i just dont spend, cus id rather save for a luscious holiday or things to put in my new ghar... sigh
my two cents: wives should really be more gentle towards their hubbies about "pocket money". Really, is it really that big of a deal u cant buy those pair of shoes that u probably have something similar sitting in ur cupboard? (trust me... i NEVER EVER thought like this before... but i do now, and it works for us) :)
^^ i dnt gt ur point here..but its ok,....
either ur against men or women..but its nt clear
im not against women or men..im against fazool karchi by either spouse..especially when the couple is on a tight budget..if u still dont get my point honey then..god help ya!
lolllz
We have a joint account for all the bills and easy access to money for the wife and myself. I never questioned my wife why/where she used money. She doesn't work and is a full-time house maker. She had a habit of taking some cash from the joint account each month. It turned out to be that she had collected about $20K. I suggested her to put this money into a bank account. I opened her personal account and deposited all the money there. She somehow doesn't use any money from that account. Sometimes I wonder what's her agenda toward all this personal saving. She calls it all her money and I am fine with it.
I don't think there should be any barrier when it comes to money between a husband and wife. However we husbands do expect our wives to use the money wisely.
Women born and raised in Pakistan use this method, its kind of their backbone if things go wrong then they have money, usually they hide it from their husbands.
Its the age of credit cards not paper money. I have two shared ones and one my own pluse a debit card. We are always open about our expendetres and both of us are responsible shoppers.
Well i pay the bills and for the food, and he pays for daily food like milk bread etc and the rest of his money he sends it abroad to his family which i don't really care as long as he does'nt ask money from me.
Really good thread. One of the things I am scared about is that I wont be able to ask him for money if i am not working. I always feel bad asking my dad for some and until now whenever he spends on me i feel like he is doing me a favor I hope it changes after rukhsati though and i become comfortable spending out of a joint account.
what i think is when you get married there are different thing that you have to worry about money is one thing.
when i got married i felt wierd asking my husband for money. since i worked for so many years and did not have to ask anyone. i would spend like carzy...
but slowly slowly i started to ask and start to look to him for money.... but on and off i still feel wierd.... and he does sometimes spell it out too... that im using his money....i just hope to start working in a 9- 5 job soon so i can look after myself....
lool
ur plyng ur hubbys role
and he is plyng urs
:D kool
intrstng
well at least she doesnt have 2 live with her in laws! so i say.... ur 1 smart gal sana!
id rather let my husband send some money back home to his fmaily then have to live the annoying ppl! n thats exactly what im gonna do! :)
well at least she doesnt have 2 live with her in laws! so i say.... ur 1 smart gal sana!
id rather let my husband send some money back home to his fmaily then have to live the annoying ppl! n thats exactly what im gonna do! :)
Thanxs soni and beleive it or not because of this we never argue over money:)
do u think there r money problems between husband and wife??
( am nt talking abt financial problems..like pying bills or buying household stuff...jst simple money)
and is it easy for the wife to ask for money?
Why should she ask for money?
Anyway, we have a joint account. We're also both earning (with comparable salaries). I never ask when I spend, unless it's a big purchase (jewelry for me or a gift for someone); same goes for him (he spends on video game systems :D ).
In my home , my money is our money and her money is her money. She does not work by the way. She is home maker. We have a joint account , she can do whatever she wants with it, she does not have to ask or tell, but she is wiser than I am with the money and I love it.
I hope it changes after rukhsati though and i become comfortable spending out of a joint account.
tahamal se kaam lo larki 
