First thing, don’t get me wrong I am not trying ask about sex, or any other kind of intimacy between you and your spouse. I am just generally curious about something poets have written a lot about, and the media has exaggerated.
How was your Suhaag Raat? I am just curious as to how the ice breaks and how one gets so comfortable that night. Sure, a lot of people know the guy/girl they get married to, but not in “that” kind of a way. Was it a bit awkward?
Its always awkward to some extent, whether you know or dont know your spouse. Nowadays, many couples even tend to delay their "sexual" encounter until a few days and even weeks after their wedding day. Its just how you communicate with one another. Some like to "go" for it and others like to get more comfortable before having sex. The best thing, in my opinion is to enjoy other concepts of intimacy such as talking, touching, kissing and pecking, before moving on to more serious things. Thats usually what I have heard many couples have done.
Theres always a beginning to everything. With a relationship, one should take time and effort to allow both partners to blossom.
Hope that answered your questions.
i heard a story from a frnd of mine that his frnd was literally raped by his wife on suhaag raat. He wanted to talk n all..like how they r gonna build a family n all...but she was like a "bhooki sherni".
I think all these girls might look very naive n all but when times come...man ooh man..all that pent up frustration would come out (no pun intended)
bhooki sherni:rolleyes:
@ lussi’s reply…mate, even though u dont intend pun, its still gr8 to read ur posts
I would say, its not called a suhaag raat, its not in da urdu lingo…!
Its called Da Night, Da Big Bad Night DBBN, sounds like a new system from Dolby
What I suggest is, a slow dance 1st to a nice Kenny G number, that is if she aint wearing a 10kg ghagra…! Then it should be “Nice & Slow”,b4 u know it, u would be singing “You and me aint nothing but mammals so lets do it like they do on da Discovery Channel”
ROFLL!!!
It’s a bit scary to see the other side of women. GULP
Lussi you misogynist.
Make sure you record your suhag raat for, you know, memory :p
Show it to your children when they are old enough: "BETA, THIS IS HOW WE MADE YOU"
Oye bhai 
It is urdu
Its suhaag raat in urdu too, There are many words of sansikrit in urdu.
And how it is bad night ? 
you are doing it with your legaly wedded wife not with your HaMsaai.
One question…(serious)
In Pakistan/india wife is loaded with heavy jewlery and clothes, so obviously she needs to change it and also brush teeth 
and wash make up. So all this stuff should be in washroom…
Who puts all these thing in washroom, (her sleeping dress,sleeepers, makeup remover etc). More importantly when she is comming for the first time in the house. 
ps. Its serious question, mazaak main uraney se parhez karain 
Code Red she usually brings it with her..or a bag is sent over to the house the previous day.
I had mine before the official Suhag Raat day – she couldn’t wait. It was pretty good. After that we had doodh patee and nimak paray.
Who can blame her?. People do a lot more silly things for ‘doodh patee and namak paray’.
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Code Red she usually brings it with her..or a bag is sent over to the house the previous day.
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O I C . Thanks :)
Normally how much time wife needs in change over, can she do it alone in less than half hour ? I mean there is jewlery, hairs are done using many pins and so on. What should husband do meanwhile.
It could be quite tense time, you know ;)
One more, the girl would mind if husband helps her in removing, the stuff ?
Excuse me for my crudeness, but the removing kapray ws always part of the foreplay wasn't it. Wheres the fun in putting on the bakwas if you have no help in taking it off.
This is too cute a question... Its different for everyone....
Its different for every girl...some girls take ages to get changed and otehrs are done in ten mins. My husband was trying to be really sweet with me on our wedding night and he was helping me take off my jewelry and rather then be a help he ended up ripping a part of my necklace...That really got us laughing....and we laughed the entire night then....
As for what goes on that night... Im from the school of thought, just get it done and over with....Its going to hurt so no point delaying that with other activities...no matter what you do it hurts... Im not trying to be unromantic but let me tell you that moment is REALLY UNROMANTIC!!! ahhaha its the before and after that are romantic....Im sure many will disagree with me... but thats what I think..
Of course we knew each other really well, and were very comfortable with each other physically before our marriage...so I guess that makes a difference!!
S.
Shes usually dead tired that first night.
Rigtly said MQ, finally in the room at 4am, we decided....its was better to sleep, so we hugged and slept. After all we had the whole life to do that stuff.
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Im from the school of thought, just get it done and over with....Its going to hurt so no point delaying that with other activities...no matter what you do it hurts...
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Talk about bad attitude....
Minime Bhaijan, you are such a liar.