Married men, and porn

Lifestyle Relationships
21

Re: Married men, and porn

My Fatwa is this STA that we should focus on more common, yet bigger sins in our society, than to focus on random and rare acts. I mean really how many muslim married men might be watching porn? They have family at home, they have boss and IT dept at work, they dont go to bars or strip clubs, so really with what frequency and where, a married muslim guy can do that?

22

Re: Married men, and porn

Above all porn movies are boring :yawn:…:smiley:

23

Re: Married men, and porn

Fantasy..

Oh amd if mrs is not being physical for whatever reason... Especially those with small children and housework ... Getting tired and just not at all wanting to be physical with the man... The guy has to do what he has to do i guess?

24

Re: Married men, and porn

is that right

25

Re: Married men, and porn

so here is my take..

There is a hadess that says (paraphrasing) that the thing between our legs and thing between our cheeks would take us to hell unless we control. Arguing that the first one would lead to Zina and second to gheebat .. and then assuming that more men are indulged in first sin and women in second - and then adding to this another hadess which says (paraphrasing) that there will be more women in hell than men - we can safely conclude that Gheebat is a far serious of a sin (and highly neglected) than Zina (or watching porn which is aankhon ka zina)

Thank you
regrads
Mufti TLK

26

Re: Married men, and porn

Do you have any doubt about it?

27

Re: Married men, and porn

im just saying

28

Re: Married men, and porn

You guys are so bad, all of you turned a serious discussion around with your jokes.

TLK mufti sahab, no doubt both sins are grave. Gheebat is a very very grave sin, but I think we are so used to talking about others we don't consider it grave and often times gheebat is trivialized by saying that I am just stating what is the truth. We need to put more and more emphasis on how grave a sin this is and look for other topics of conversation that do not discuss ppl.

Watching porn that is done by knowledgeable men who lead their women and families in an islamic way is worrisome and I would just like to know what makes these men go this way

29

Re: Married men, and porn

Well maybe that married guy is not getting any? Thus resorts to such activities?

30

Re: Married men, and porn

Hold on a sec.

What if a wifey wants to make a mini porn film for her husband?

I guess my question is, is it worse because he's watching other women doing sexy stuff, or is it the actual act of watching porn that's worse?

31

Re: Married men, and porn

Oh, so women don't watch porn? No?

32

Re: Married men, and porn

A sin is a sin so aksing that why someone is committing this sin, while other person who is committing another type of sin is not in question, is a behes that is only going to go round and round. Short answer would be that just because someone is leading his family in Islamic way does not make him a maasoom (the one who cannot commit sin) cause that property is part of Anbiyaa and little kids only, which means the he can commit that sin. Why would he do that is more of a psychological issue than a religious.

33

Re: Married men, and porn

And why is it assumed that he is not getting any at home. Some of these men (in the article have happy active intimate lives according to their own admission) don't lack any intimacy from their wives' ends.

Nikki the number of men watching porn is a lot more than women NO ?

34

Re: Married men, and porn

I think it is the act as well as the fact that na-mehram women are being watched. If you read the nitty gritty of how to have sex the Islamic Way, then let's put it this way, ummmmm, we're all going to hell! Having said that, mods please feel free to edit this part of my sentence.

35

Re: Married men, and porn

Oh jee, I have not done research in this area. :D But I can tell you that women aren't as masoom as we believe them to be. I was reading an article in an Indian News Magazine about how these wealthy housewives have afternoon "fun" with their male servants. It's quite disgusting to know what all goes on these days. I mean, it would be nicer of they just watched porn I think. So the thing is, a sin is a sin. And there are many types of sins and levels of sins. I guess what we need to do is stop blaming one particular gender. We are ALL guilty of something, be it backbiting at its worst, lying, watching porn, stealing neighbor's water hose...whatever.

36

Re: Married men, and porn

as you said, its a worng assumption. Watching porn is like having mango achaar on the side along with their meal. It maybe making things spicier for some men, but that does not mean that they are not getting the actual meal

37

Re: Married men, and porn

I didn't know porn existed when the Qur'an was written ;o
how can one say that one is a graver sin then the other even though they aren't Allah?

38

Re: Married men, and porn

v shd try to avoid all sins as much as possible,be it back biting or porn or anything else.
however porn has very wide reaching negative effects. its an industry where men and women are exploited and by watching it people support that.
i am amazed u r comparin it to gheebat TLK

39

Re: Married men, and porn

I agree with this.

Watching porn is not cool...but how many guys are doing this?

40

Re: Married men, and porn

You guys are more than welcome not to agree with me.