Married ladies, would you feel insecure

.. if you have a very attractive maid working for you? The question has nothing to do with your hubby’s character or maid’s character. Just the fact that there is young, attractive, carelessly dressed, frank and talkative maid works for you.

I am asking cause one of our family friend; wife actually let such a maid go (rather, did not hire her after the trial period is over) for the above mentioned reason. Husband is a normal shareef guy.

Re: Married ladies, would you feel insecure

I dont mind at all :hmmm:

:hehe: yeh !

Re: Married ladies, would you feel insecure

Sharafat is a Variable not a Constant . A wife should feel insecure :p

Re: Married ladies, would you feel insecure

If she's that attractive than why is she a maid? or is she a struggling model who is doing side work cleaning people's houses? LOL...

See the truth comes out! Ladies, listen to the guy - don't do it!

Re: Married ladies, would you feel insecure

ohhhhh

That was your ad in the newspaper "hot maid needed"

hmmm

there are lots of Russian families in our area where young women of the family get a cleaning lady job. Khoobsoorat honay ka yeah matlab to nahi ke wo bars main ja ke nachna shroo ker day.

There is sharafat then there is trust. Namaan is a bachelor, knows nothing about the second concept :p

If my wife is not insecure about me , then I’ll make sure she is . Thats where all the fun lies :wink:

Re: Married ladies, would you feel insecure

its not about insecurity…it about why bother testing shareef hubby’s iman. :wink:

you are again reading the wrong section of your classified ads

Lekin, Namaan said that mard ki sharafat is variable - so I guess biwi ka trust should be variable as well.

Re: Married ladies, would you feel insecure

Trust should be an independent variable. No?

^The bolded part is what I wouldn't be comfortable with.

Re: Married ladies, would you feel insecure

No not really.

Remember that episode of Everyboyd Loves Raymond where Frank mentions how he had hte hots for the maid…even though she was much older, heavyset and not very nice? Which goes to show..it doesnt have to be a supermodel, its just having a different woman in an intimate setting and close proximity that makes thjem so appealing :hmmm:

Re: Married ladies, would you feel insecure

I would think that one spouse's trust is relative to the other spouse's sharafat.

And see how PC I am, I did not say husband or wife - since sharafat and trust are values each has or earns.

Are you serious??? I thought that khoobsoorat women were meant to be models???

On a serious note, a lot of good looking women feel that they are too good to clean their own house, they would never even think to clean someone elses lol.

Islamically, there should not be a namaharam women or man in your house, as these things tempt us as humans.

From a personal point of view, I wouldn't be upset about having an attractive maid in the house, there are attractive woman all over every where we go. Malls, grocery stores, work. If you have trust in your relationship than you probably won't be bothered by a sitauation as this. The most attractive women is your wife, nothing else should tempt you.

Now the real question is how would men feel if we had an attractive John Abraham look alike maid? lol

Not really. Trust is more relative to your own sharafat. Less shareef people dont trust others cause they always think that the other party must be like them.

Our response would be pretty simple ..

Islamically, there should not be a namaharam women or man in your house, as these things tempt us as humans.

lol. you would even limit friendship with women who dresses-up carelessly, let alone seeing such women as a maid of your house. :D…:nahi: