This is not a mock on married ladies thread. I understand the apprehensions and speculations of of girls who are about to face their first night, but I think its only fair to mention that guys are under equal strain on the first night. It’s their time to prove that they are romantic, sensitive and manly – all at the same time. They have the pressure to set the environment and lead the night. Anything they do (or don’t do) that night could come back and haunt them and their future relationship with their new wife for a very long time.
Long story short, when men are under stress/pressure, its not easy for them to fulfill the romantic obligations (if you know what I mean). Yet they still try and probably do that. Its not an easy call.
Should be easier for those who have good interaction before marriage. Specially in love marriage it's not a super duuper complicated task to behave romantically whatsoever...
Agree with tlk that it is alot of pressure for the guy since he has the responsibility of making sure its a good experience for both. Another thing worth mentioning is for guys to take it slow. I have heard of too many guys wanting to go through everything in the first night which is not a good solution at all.
I have heard of too many guys wanting to go through everything in the first night which is not a good solution at all.
Problem is that guys dont know any better. They are forced to believe that first night is the performance night. Even if they know that they have a choice of not going all the way on the very first night, how would they know if they should or should not. I mean dulhan is not going to tell him, right? That unknown factor (that D6C mentioned) just adds to the pressure.
