Faisal - one married woman (well, now two), the others still hashing adoption out…
Sara - that might be a good thread to open in religion. It sounds very interesting. Aside from that, not what Mahru was asking. I think she wants to try having her own first
Mahru - Everything Faisal said, he was the most comprehensive. Two things I would like to add. The first is take the birth control information seriously. Depending on how long you have been taking it can effect how long it may take you to concieve. The second is, there are positions to maximixe your bodies ability to concieve.
[Here](http://www.fertility.com/international/concern/Maximise_Your_Fertility/Sexual_Positions.jsp) is a link to a site that lists them. This site also has a lot of information overall dealing with fertility (diet, exercise, minimizing stress, etc). Click around it :)
It took about a year for my body to adjust to not being on birth control and to get pregnant with my first child. But my reasons for birth control was because of a hormonal imbalance to begin with, so that factored in. It depends on your physical health.
Faisal gave a good range - wait about a year to 18 months then bring your concerns to a doctor. He would know best.
Good luck :)
Ok, heres another married womans response. I tried to conceive for over a year and then went for testing. I had used Depo Provera birth control (which "shuts down" your ovaries and prevents eggs from being released) and I was no longer ovulating. I needed to use injectible fertility medications to become fertile again. It took 3 months for me to conceive. After I had this first baby, I no longer needed fertility meds and conceived naturally (and quickly!) for the next 2 babies. Pregnancy is a wonderful cure for infertility!
Along the way of the difficult journey of infertility, my hubby and I did discuss adoption. But I didnt want to give up easily. When you love your partner deeply, there is no greater gift than to create a new life with him.
I wish you the best. If you are young and healthy dont worry...just keep trying for a while like Faisal recommended. If you want to get fancy, many pharmacies now carry ovulation test kits that are easy to use and will tell you when you are fertile. Also, start taking a multivitamin and folic acid. Many of the infertile women I've corresponded with have talked about wild yams to increase fertility but I dont know much about that.
Thanks for shutting the male specie out, so typical of women. Here's an issue which takes two to tango (traditionally speakin) and the 'other' lesser not the least is being told to stay out. Dscrimination, discrimination, discrimination. Women sud not talk about equal rights or being marginalized when they too cannot share. Anyways, this subject is important to men as much as women folk
FG, keep yer panny hose on....i doubt that there was any offense intended here. rather, its kind of gal talk...cycles and schedules and ovulation time and fertility. not the type of thing that is usually discussed in mixed company.
Mr. Fartguru- this is exactly the reason i wanted men to stay out of this thread. Do you see what you have started????? The reason for this thread was completely different and people like you have taken it into a different direction. Now, I suggest you stay out of it and leave it at a girls talk only.
Thank you all for your replies. I do understand the basics. I do Alhumdolillah have a regular cycle.
I am a little concerned about my age though I am 27 and hubby is 32. Is my biologicial clock near the end???????
I dont agree with the above statement at all…if a couple is having fertility problems (and I am in this same boat…), it doesn’t mean that they are not meant to bear their own kids…then why else did “GOD” invent these fertiilty methods and such? I dont want to make this a religion issue, but i believe its up to the couple themselves to decide what’s best for them..instead of saying they are not meant to have their own kids, maybe it’s a challenge from God and its one of life’s hurdles that can be solved…
about fasial…woah!! u know a lot of info for being a guy..thats scary…lol…
well good luck and insha allah u will get preg…in the meantime pray for me…thanks!
Well when I had been married for a year I went this lady doctor in pak and she said gave me some tablets to take which would clean out my system. I hadnt been on contraceptives prior to this.
The very next period I had was very dark almost black and that was my last period as i got pregnant straight away. They were called cerophene I think.
I dont know if theyre available here in UK or wether theyre called a different name.
Anyway after that Ive tried to get pregnant again but without any luck. I should have gone to her again last time I went to pak.
I’m not trying to make infertility a religious issue; for me personally, if after such time and effort wasted, I would adopt. Everyone should do what they think is best.
ever had medicine for some cold or flu? or got a broken bone treated? or been to the dentist? i think u should let the broken bone rott and get deformed, cos thats what God sent ur way right? and u should be happy with it… no need to treat it. :k:
First of all I completely disagree with you Ms. Sara. Allah has guided all the scientists in creating all the luxuries we have. The brains that those scientist had/have was given to them from Allah (SWT).
It is because of Allah Only that we have all these facilities and etc. Sometimes things are difficult for some people but that does not mean to stop trying. You may have your own reasons to adopt but please don't say that Infertility treatments were invented by Scientist............Allah works in mysterious ways.
Tabassum - the stuff you are talking about is called Clomid or serophene citrate which is an ovulation induction pill. Maybe you are not ovulating. Just getting a monthly period does not mean you are also ovulating. You have to ovulate in order to get pregnant. So in your case the medicine help you ovulate and you got pregnant. Go for bloods and hormone levels to see if your cycles are normal and are producing a follicle every month.
MFS555- don 't worry InshaAllah you will get pregnant very soon!!!! If you can start reciting these names of Allah in the order that I have written them
Ya Allaho - Ya Khaliqo - Ya Musawwiro - Ya Barioo
Recite them throughout the day and see its miracles, InshaAllah.
Just a quick note... sometimes when females dont conceive they try many different things. Without realizing that it could be due to Low sperm count (oligospermia). Something to ponder .....
thanks mahru for ur prayers...appreciate it...
for basit....my hubby and I are SO in that boat right now...we're in the midst of trying to improve the numbers...wish us good luck!
One last thing I'd like to add (not that the first post got any thanks from Mahru auntie) is the stress-factor. As someone mentioned it before, you'd hear many stories where a couple kept trying for many years, finally adopted, and then, like a miracle the wife becomes pregnant.
Stress is actually a big factor. So try not to worry about too much about not being able to conceive initially. Remember, it happens when Allah wills it to happen. Stay stress-free (as much as possible) in the initial 12-18 months when you start trying. If fertilization doesn't happen, and there is only a minor issue, it can usually be fixed by simple medicines as well.
If you or your spouse are taking any regular medications for any other illness, make sure you read all fine print to see if any side-effect impacts fertility.
